chafed Posted June 20, 2003 Posted June 20, 2003 Hey there, I would appreciate some help. My g/f of 2 years just recently wanted a break from it all, witch came by surprize to me, but I love her and all that and had to give her want she wanted, so there there we are on a "break" ( witch I still don't know what means) The reason for the break is so that she can look at the realationship ship from outside and she if it's what she wants.(Obvouisly for life) It was and still is extremely hard to deal with as I had no idea what she was feeling after many times trying to probe and she if she wanted to talk( I'm not dumb I could sense something) but she insisted there was nothing wrong.. So here I am thinking I'm just giving here, her space for the better, but one day she went out for coffee with my best friend(Male) And he was asking her what was up with our realationship. and she told him that it was over, done and that we would never get back together. meanwhile I still think were on a break.. SO this guy is my b/f for a reason cause we talk and he listens to me, and I was talking about what he that was going on. (expecting some encouragement) but he said get over her it's over. witch threw me right off thinking what does he know that I don't. After alot of grinding him he told me what she said. So I attemped to confont her on it for the truth some sort of closher, but she still said to me that she doesn't know what she wants but feels that she needs time, and what kind of life mate would I be not to give that to her, right? so a month goes by with weekly contact. email, phonecalls and all that. up untill my birthday last friday. she came out witch made me sad cause how pathetic am i to hang with my exgurl,, anyway I'm rambling.. My b/f told me to get over her cause he knew. on the night of my bday me and her kissed and stuuf and he ended up talking to her and she said that she might want to work things out to him. so he told me that making me chang my whole tought procces and now I don't know what to do. her and I talked and she said stuff like I wanna be yourg/f and I wanna have kids and then the next day went I called her on it she said she could't remember what she said, that she was drunk. SO now I don't know what I should do?? We live together and she moved to hr moms and I can't afford rent on my own. should I forget her and move on or wait for her to move back before getting a roomate.? SOrry it's so long but I need help with this one/ Thanks
quankanne Posted June 20, 2003 Posted June 20, 2003 find yourself a roommate and begin moving on without your girlfriend. If she's told others that the relationship is over -- but tells you she's only taking "a break," either she doesn't want to hurt you by breaking up with you outright, or she's stringing you along. Either way, you don't need those kinds of games, no matter how much you care for her.
chafed Posted June 20, 2003 Posted June 20, 2003 You think? I just don't know., I belive that she's really confused and yet at the same time i feel like she's strining me,. I was thinking of telling her that I don't want to have any contact with her and that I want her to move out all her stuff because I don't wan't to live in a home that constantly reminds me of her , and that this will give her time and me time. and if in 6 months the feeling are still there great, but I can't can't keep living like this, hoping she''ll come home . what do you think about that?
Gray Posted June 20, 2003 Posted June 20, 2003 I just responded to someone else saying something like "easier said than done." But if she wants time, and space, then you get that too. So if you're going to need help with rent, start looking for a roommate. She'll have no right being upset at you replacing her space in the apartment. So basically move on... theres always the chance she'll come around. And you can deal with the living situation then. But I'd say if she's demanding all this time, living together prolly wasn't the best idea in the first place. Oh, its which btw. witch is the broomstick and warts one.
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