niifawm Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 Hi, I met a girl 6 months back and liked her nature since very first day. She has been quite responsible from starting and that was the quality I liked in her. Being quite open with friends was her next thing which impressed me. Being an open person, I expressed her that I like these qualities in her and she took those in a positive sense and I never saw her behaving awkwardly even after that. This was another thing which added into the list. We normally chat online only and meet professionally once in a while. From last one week, I am feeling very down and it is driving me crazy. I am not able to concentrate on anything apart on her. But the real problem is that She is already getting along with another guy and looks like both of them are quite happy so really don't want to create a mess there. I want her to be happy wherever she is. I am not sure, how to come out of this situation as it is killing me and my life is getting screwed. Please advice me... Thanks...
Meaplus3 Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 Hi, I met a girl 6 months back and liked her nature since very first day. She has been quite responsible from starting and that was the quality I liked in her. Being quite open with friends was her next thing which impressed me. Being an open person, I expressed her that I like these qualities in her and she took those in a positive sense and I never saw her behaving awkwardly even after that. This was another thing which added into the list. We normally chat online only and meet professionally once in a while. From last one week, I am feeling very down and it is driving me crazy. I am not able to concentrate on anything apart on her. But the real problem is that She is already getting along with another guy and looks like both of them are quite happy so really don't want to create a mess there. I want her to be happy wherever she is. I am not sure, how to come out of this situation as it is killing me and my life is getting screwed. Please advice me... Thanks... Hi niifawm. If you are thinking about her all day long then IMOP this mean's you have some very strong feeling's for her. Do you know what her feeling's are for you? AP:)
Author niifawm Posted January 21, 2008 Author Posted January 21, 2008 Hi AP, Thanks. I really don't know what does she feel about me but what I got out of our conversations (like flirting with her, praising her) that she avoids these topics. Neither she get angry nor she encourage these. So I think she knows about my feelings and don't want to give any chance to me for pursuing further. Also, as I told that she is already in a relationship and looks like she is quite happy there. Did you get anything out of this? -NIIFAWM
Meaplus3 Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 Hi AP, Thanks. I really don't know what does she feel about me but what I got out of our conversations (like flirting with her, praising her) that she avoids these topics. Neither she get angry nor she encourage these. So I think she knows about my feelings and don't want to give any chance to me for pursuing further. Also, as I told that she is already in a relationship and looks like she is quite happy there. Did you get anything out of this? -NIIFAWM Well then it sound's to me like a platonic friendship is all she desires.If it's to difficult for you to be at a just friend's staus with her then you need to let her go. While it might be tough it can be done in time. Good luck. AP:)
Author niifawm Posted January 22, 2008 Author Posted January 22, 2008 (edited) Hi AP, I understand that and considering that her guy is in town so it is better for me to back off but I don't want to offend her by cutting off at once. Do I have any other choice in which I won't hurt/offend her and also, I can come out of this? At present, I am thinking of cutting off at once. It may hurt her a bit but in long run it is good for both of us. Also, I have a lunch planned with her this weekend but I started realizing that she is coming over because I pushed her couple of times and I never saw any excitement in her for the same. Shall I go with her on just cancel it? Because she already canceled this once because of flimsy reasons. I think she knows that I have good feelings for her and no cheap feelings so she doesn't want to hurt me and that's why she agreed. How do you see this? -NIIFAWM Edited January 22, 2008 by niifawm Added some details...
Meaplus3 Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 Hi AP, I understand that and considering that her guy is in town so it is better for me to back off but I don't want to offend her by cutting off at once. Do I have any other choice in which I won't hurt/offend her and also, I can come out of this? At present, I am thinking of cutting off at once. It may hurt her a bit but in long run it is good for both of us. Also, I have a lunch planned with her this weekend but I started realizing that she is coming over because I pushed her couple of times and I never saw any excitement in her for the same. Shall I go with her on just cancel it? Because she already canceled this once because of flimsy reasons. I think she knows that I have good feelings for her and no cheap feelings so she doesn't want to hurt me and that's why she agreed. How do you see this? -NIIFAWM What was her reason for cancelling lunch the first time? AP:)
Author niifawm Posted January 22, 2008 Author Posted January 22, 2008 We talked on Friday and it was scheduled on Saturday. I was waiting for that but at the time she told me that she has to go with her father. I did not mind canceling the lunch at that time but what I found offensive is not letting me know in advance as I was waiting for her. Also, the plan with her father was not sudden, it was planned since morning I suppose. Actually, I told her that I really felt bad that day. Not because you canceled the lunch but because you did not tell me in advance about it. -NIIFAWM
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