stress_head Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 My question to you is.... How do you calm down and relax and calm insecurities?? Deep down I know everything is more than fine in my relationship and my boyfriend of a year is very much in love with me. he is moving away- to the city- where he and I both work but an hour away from where I live. I know he wants to be with me, he has told me many many times everything will work out and in 6 months Im moving to the same city too. I cannot help but feel as though I am going to be lost in prioroties...and just sort of forgotten? Im good at giving advice but I am not good at listening when other people give me it. I need to listen to his words when he speaks. Any advice? p.s the city i am moving to - I dont know anyone?? I am scared!
TMichaels Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 I need to listen to his words when he speaks. You said it best yourself. You need to listen to what your boyfriend is saying and be reassured that as he says "everything will work out." Even after he moves, you'll only be an hour away from each other. Plus, didn't you say you'll both be working in the same city (even before you move)? Why not see if the two of you can get together for lunch during the week and then spend time together on the weekends? Also, don't worry right now about not knowing anyone where you plan to move. You'll certainly meet people through work, and no doubt your boyfriend will make/have friends that you will get to know. Easier said than done, but take a deep breath. If you believe each other and the strength of your relationship, which sounds solid from what you've said, the two of you will come through this new chapter in your lives just fine. Best, TMichaels
Author stress_head Posted January 21, 2008 Author Posted January 21, 2008 Thank you so much for your reply, its easier to hear advice from someone who doesnt know either of you! My only problem is I'm very scared of long distance relationships. Im 21 and every relationship I've had (this is my fourth- but this one means the most!!!) have been long distance so I know how hard they can be. the only problem is ive always been the one who has left, heck some of them began as long distance relationships. i just dont want us to break away and lose what we have. i very much like you idea of lunch and that advice! he also has uni down where I am so maybe we can work around that too! I just worry/ stress too much and if anything or anyone is going to wreck it itll be me worrying!!!
TMichaels Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 I just worry/ stress too much and if anything or anyone is going to wreck it itll be me worrying!!! It'll be fine, stresshead. Relationships, whether LD or close by, take honest communication, trust and commitment. It sounds as though you and your boyfriend already have a good foundation when it comes to that, so just build on it and before you know it, six months will have flown by, and you'll be closer than ever! Best, TMichaels
j_hunt_12 Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 You should worry. You can't REALLY know what will happen. J/k you're lucky it's only 6 months, but LDRs suck so much it's not even funny. I will not lie. Religion helps stress.... pray a lot, if your religious........ meditation always helps........ uhhhhh... self-hypnosis isn't bad either. Just remember an LDR helps a relationship, and if it doesn't last through 6 month, it shouldn't have lasted anyways. peace and good luck
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