Nintenja Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 I'm in a foreign language (Japanese) at college and there is a girl in my class that I just met recently during a class activity, and wouldn't mind getting to know a little more. We have oral presentations in that class and I was planning on asking her to be my partner for it. She doesn't seem to know anyone else in the class and I was also going to bring up how it might be more interesting since we don't know each other very well. I was planning on asking her if we could also study the language together in the library or something. Like practice writing it together. I was wondering how I should go about doing it and would like some opinions or suggestions. Thanks!
Lucasarts Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 do it I did this. It worked. And now I'm desperately trying to figure out if it was worth it b/c of all the grief this girl is giving me. But yes, if you like her, then go for it. Nothing to lose, but a lot to gain. Plus its harmless studying/classwork. It'll make it a lot more fun too. Good luck
Author Nintenja Posted January 20, 2008 Author Posted January 20, 2008 do it I did this. It worked. And now I'm desperately trying to figure out if it was worth it b/c of all the grief this girl is giving me. But yes, if you like her, then go for it. Nothing to lose, but a lot to gain. Plus its harmless studying/classwork. It'll make it a lot more fun too. Good luck Thanks, well I'm not really afraid of being rejected. I know she'll be glad to work together, what I am afraid of losing is my sanity, like you said... She seems really nice though. I hope everything works out, for the both of us.
Author Nintenja Posted January 26, 2008 Author Posted January 26, 2008 Yeah! It worked PERFECTLY! She was very happy with the idea! I'ma do my best to get to know her more! How should I go about getting to know her more?
Lucasarts Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 well you're both gonna be spending time together, just try to have a bit of fun and get a little studying done. Don't try to pry into her personal life so much (but if the direction starts going that way. . . thats a good thing, it means she's opening up to you) just focus on keeping it harmless and comfortable. Worse thing is making the study session awkward b/c then it just goes to show what type of person you are/might be if you can't even get a handle of yourself during a STUDY SESSION. Also, act stupid at times about things, as the girl will like being able to tell you how to do things, and whats right and wrong (gives them a power trip over you) and be open. The key is to HAVE FUN. Thats it. Don't think about anything else but have fun with this girl. If that doesn't/can't happen, then the girl isn't right for you.
Elyssa Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 Also, act stupid at times about things, as the girl will like being able to tell you how to do things, and whats right and wrong (gives them a power trip over you) and be open. I would advise against doing this. It can backfire very easily if she just happens to be one of those women that, like me, prefer men to be intellectual equals. Playing dumb, even if only occasionally, could make her feel like she's superior to him, or even an incapable partner for studying purposes. -E
wookinpanub Posted January 27, 2008 Posted January 27, 2008 But then on the flipside, you don't want to come off as a condescending know-it-all.
Rise Against Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 Ahh yeah, there was this girl I liked and I did the same thing, and now we are really close friends (and is still hoping more would happen). Every study session, we would have so much fun and we would always get to know each other better. She would start inviting you to parties and talk about you to all her friends. It can't be any better! =) It's always fun to have someone really close from the opposite sex.
tanbark813 Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 Invite her over to eat sushi and watch The Karate Kid.
Green Posted January 28, 2008 Posted January 28, 2008 Invite her over to eat sushi and watch The Karate Kid. maybe he can get her to wax somethin
Lucasarts Posted February 2, 2008 Posted February 2, 2008 sorry Elyssa, but don't girls enjoy feeling superior to men? I mean not every girl does, but a majority do (makes them feel needed and much more intelligent). Plus its a study session, pretending to be dumb in a funny way (not literally act stupid) can score a lot of laughs. incapable partner? lol, sorry, but pretending to be dumb and actually being dumb are two different things. When i do this, I know what I'm studying, but I also know that studying is boring if its two people who know what to do and just recite it back and forth to each other. When you act dumb, you make it more interesting and the girl USUALLY enjoys teaching you things (which you probably already know, but maybe not). A girl who gets annoyed by that usually isn't someone you would want to be with anyways (its a good test to see what type of person she is as well). But hey, girls know all about tests (its why they keep playing mind games) so I don't think I need to explain anymore.
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