nops9025 Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 i would like to know how to deal of being alone after being married 11 years? I am lonely, miserable... and on top of it i fall in love with a co-worker that has a girlfriend... i guess in a way my marriage fell apart when my husband volinteered to go to Iraq for the second time.. we didnt sleep together for about 3 years... i couldnt get any sleep because of snoreing... so i would sleep in the other end of the house so i could get some sleep.. the physical part was just once in a while... has anyone felt the way i do or fall in love with a co-worker?
Author nops9025 Posted January 20, 2008 Author Posted January 20, 2008 what are we looking for in life? Do we know what we want? Sure we do.. we want someone to be there when we need them RIGHT? For some reason guys can have that physical part and not have an emotional feeling... to where us women, we like that phyical part but for some odd reason god made us have that emotional reaction. WHY? well thats a good question... no has the answer. I wish i did. But some how guys have a way of saying what we want to hear until the get what they want. what do you think?
SoleMate Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 What do you mean your FIRST divorce? I'm still processing that. Is it a Freudian slip that means, "I will have more failed relationships"? Anyhow, to get over pain, get busy, get distracted, and cry every now and then.
Gunny376 Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 Most excellant post nops9025! However you generalize! The main reason I broke up with my ex GF? Was becuae all I was getting out of the "R" was sex! That was it! It wasn't enough for me! As a person? An individual, a man I wanted and needed to be ~ Wanted? Neeeded? Appreciated? Valiadated? Desired? And that's coming from one of the most self-automoious, self aware persons I know of ~ ME! I've not scared of being single and alone?! In fact? I relish it!
jeffrey_e Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 Are you sure you love this guy? or is he the one you chose to fall for so youre not alone? Perhaps you should learn to be alone first. Why look for someone to rescue you when you can rescue yourself. Finding another man to be with so youre not alone doesnt make for a good relationship. What you may be doing is making unspoken deals. As an example, I'll make you feel special if you'll never leave me. But if you get past being alone, you are free to find someone whom you "want" to be with instead of "need" to be with. Invest your heart the right way and you will have a better chance for success. Good Luck, Jeffrey
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