4givrnt4gtr Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 (edited) Well, I always have heard that tough times bring the best in people. I think it goes the same for relationships.... This relationship im in has taught me A LOT And it took a few days of tough situations, a bit of arguing, of listening and talking. Of getting mad, getting over it, getting mad again, questioning the relationship, getting scared and finally analyzing the situation together, what it all mean and realizing it is all worth it. Ive been with this guy for almost 8 months. Of all those 8 months, ive never been as sure as I am today, that the whole of it is soooooo totally worth it. I also realized, given that this is my first real relationship, that relationships are HARD They are DIFFICULT and frustrating and scary. But, a good one anyway, also help you grow and as hard and frustrating as it may be, as long as the connection gets stronger, and the problems get resolved and love grows and thrives, its SOOO worth the effort I also learned that relationships are not always all lovey dovey, and you will not always be laughing and cuddling etc. And that arguments and disagreements, so long as they are dealt with love and patience and good humor are not signals of doom. And that you SO no matter how wonderful they are, is also human, prey to foul moods, and tiredness and crankiness. And all of that doesnt mean they love you any less, even when they do wrinkle their noses at you. Oh and also, that you are not ALWAYS at fault for their crankiness. And that its important to give, but also to take, and to accept fault and accept apologies gracefully, without gloating. that respect for each other means the make or break of the relationship. Also acceptance...a good one if you hope to make it all last. I learned to trust my SO to listen to my worries and hear me out without accusations, blaming or guilt tripping. And accept his attempts at making me feel better. I also learned that you should ALWAYS know what you want out of the relationship, what is acceptable and what is not. And that only you know what is acceptable or not, but that respect should always be the most important rule. And that you need to ALWAYS tell your SO when boundaries are being broken....again...arguing and madness may ensue...but if the relationship is good, it will help get to know each other. Oh yeah...and it takes a hell of a long time to REALLY get to know someone. and to love them??? well, its a constant process... My insights for the day. Edited January 20, 2008 by 4givrnt4gtr
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