Eagle362 Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 Hi I have been going out with a girl for a few months. We get on very well most of the time and consider that we love each other. I am getting worried though beceause of the behaviour my girlfriend is displaying. She went through a stage of about two weeks where she just clammed up away from me would not show me her phone or email. Now it seems back to normal. Also she dances with guys even at clubs when she doesn't know them is this normal behaviour for a girl? None of my previous gfs have been club goers so Im at a bit off a loss with this one.
EYECANDY000 Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 your asking if it is normal behavior for your g/f to dance and grind on guys in the club? You want to know if you confort her , if your over reacting? hmmmmmmmmmm let me think
makemyblackrosesred Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 Its def not ok to do that. Call her on it. Especially since she was shady about the whole email-telephone thing. I don't want to seem like I am saying she cheated on you, but that doesn't sounds like faithful behavior. I would confront her in a way that is not aggressive though:)
4givrnt4gtr Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 wow, if my didnt want me to see emails and texts i would definitely wonder about his faithfulness. But as usual, the best medicine to any and all relationship problems is COMMUNICATION. (easier said than done for sure) Talk to her, be calm about it, but tell her you dont like what seems to be happening, with the whole email/phone thing. And also discuss the whole dancing thing. BTW how long have u guys been together? are you officially exclusive??
Author Eagle362 Posted January 20, 2008 Author Posted January 20, 2008 Yeah we are ment to be exclusive we agreed to that within the first week or two of us going out. She is a flirty kind of girl but im really offended she would do something to hurt me like that.
Brokendreams875 Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 Ok I myself AM a club girl. Or use to be anyway. I use to be in a club or bar Saturday night, Tuesday night, and Usually Friday nights as well and I can say that her dancing with other guys IS PERFECTLY NORMAL FOR A CLUB GIRL. I dance with guys because I want to dance! I know alot of guys think its like having sex on the dance floor some of the ways people in clubs dance, but all girls see it as IS DANCING. (Something my BF still hates btw and when he told me that I try and mostly dance with my girlfriends but I dont think dancing with guys is bad as long as they arent like groping me etc) As for her not letting you read her messages and emails.....well its just weird that you would do that anyway. Ive been with my boyfriend for 7 months now but over a year ago we were together for 13 months and had a bad breakup MOSTLY cause of his jealousy issues. He use to check my phone etc (got mad when "chris" texted me cause he didnt realize it was MY BROTHER) It is very possible that your girl has a real problem with the invasion of privacy and doesnt know how to say it so she tried to show you by not allowing the behavior and gave up when she saw it was upsetting you. To be 100% honest, it sounds like YOU are the one with the problem and you have some real security issues. As you said, you have never dated a club goer. Most club girls are VERY outgoing and do have a bit of a problem with being overly friendly, but in my opinion it sounds like your being worried because its a new situation for you. I mean even as for the messages and email its very possible that maybe her best friend had a few problems that she promised not to tell you about or there was a family problem she wasnt ready to talk to you about etc There are SO MANY other explinations for her behavior and unless you talk to her about it I wouldnt start worrying about anything yet,
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