Arch Posted January 19, 2008 Posted January 19, 2008 (edited) I got a question, I have a strong B/D "fetish", I like girls in bondage. I don't have a interest in S&M, or any type of "group activity's" but piercings are a plus. Now my question is, whats a good way to find a girl who enjoys being in bondage? I really don't want to spend 8 + months to a year getting a girl friend then it turns out she feels uncomfortable to participate in these things with me, I am thinking about just talking to perspective girl friends upfront about it, but I really have no idea as to how they would take it, most people don't like honesty. The other thing that kind of pisses me off is, most people think anyone who likes Bondage is a sadist - at least the ones I have talked to. Honestly wtf, people make too many assumptions the minute they hear something outside of there normal. Any way - any suggestions? Edited January 19, 2008 by Arch
brothermartin Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 Try some of those internet hook-up sites. Most of those people are just looking for fun and sex stuff.
bozwa Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 What? Most people don't like honesty?? LOL!! I haven't heard that one. I think a girl would rather hear this early on in the relationship rather than wasting 8+ months plus of HER life with someone she isn't sexually compatible with. If you opt to not to go the online route as the above poster suggested, or even if you do, I think you should be honest early on. If it scares her off, then she probably isn't the one you want to be with anyway if bondage is something you need ot be satisfied. Yup, being honest IS necessary and will probably serve you better.
Author Arch Posted January 20, 2008 Author Posted January 20, 2008 Thats not quite what I am looking for, I actually would like to be in a relationship, what I am questioning is what is the best way to introduce my "fetishes", or find a girl who enjoys what I enjoy. Like I said originally - what I don't want to happen is to be involved in a relationship with a girl then later find out that she feels uncomfortable to participate in Bondage and other things I have a interest in. lol edit - bozwa posted when I was writing my reply, @ bozwa :Thanks I guess that makes sense
bozwa Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 Good morning. As for HOW to find girls that are into this, and someone you want to have realationship with and not just a litttle FUN? That's a difficult one. I have to just give you the same advice. Obviously it;s going to be physical attraction and attraction to personality that's going to reeal you in first. Beyond that, not many people advertise their interest in the "different" fetishes, so it's going to be difficult to find someone right off the bat who are into it. You may get lucky, tell the girl what you're into (and I would do this during one of the conversations about sex - cause the sex topic ALWAYS comes up very early on in relationships, if not BEFORE it's official), and you may come to find out that she'd at least be willing to try it. A lot of us wouldn't mind being tied up on occasion or receiving/giving the occasional spank. LOL It just depends on what extent you want to take it to..and if you REALLY like the girl, I'm sure a compromise can be agreed to so you both are satisfied. Just some things to ponder...Good luck in your search!!!
Author Arch Posted January 21, 2008 Author Posted January 21, 2008 Thank you for the insight and advice,
KittenMoon Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 Thats not quite what I am looking for, I actually would like to be in a relationship, what I am questioning is what is the best way to introduce my "fetishes", or find a girl who enjoys what I enjoy. Like I said originally - what I don't want to happen is to be involved in a relationship with a girl then later find out that she feels uncomfortable to participate in Bondage and other things I have a interest in. I just wanna say it's nice to hear from a normal guy looking for a relationship that's into a little kink. I imagine if you're upfront about it, and safe, you might find it's not that unusual. Also, I know a few LTR where the partners are into a little bondage- you've got company out there!
Author Arch Posted January 21, 2008 Author Posted January 21, 2008 Its nice to hear I am not alone lol Anyway thanks for the help
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