Mistaken Identity Posted January 19, 2008 Posted January 19, 2008 As I've posted before, I've been emailing a guy almost daily since December 11th. I had a crush on him in high school; we had a couple of classes together. He's not a complete stranger. We've spoken on the phone twice. He asked me out, but while we were making plans, his work cut in to say he was fired. He said he would have to take a raincheck on the date. Although we still email each other, there is no more mention of a date. I don't know if this is because he is still unemployed or if he just doesn't want to go out with me. I've decided to stop emailing him after my last email the day before yesterday in which I thanked him for some advice. I don't want to seem desperate, or to bother him. Am I doing the right thing? BTW, we're both divorced and in our 40s. We are also both insecure. Thanks for any constructive advice.
EYECANDY000 Posted January 19, 2008 Posted January 19, 2008 have you asked him if he would like to go out sometime, instead of waiting for him to make the first move? If he is still unemployed his only concern for the moment is finding a job . I would ask himif he would like to go out for coffee or for drinks.
Author Mistaken Identity Posted January 19, 2008 Author Posted January 19, 2008 Thanks, EyeCandy for responding so quick. You don't think I would appear desperate? He hasn't even responded to my last email yet.
TigerCub Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 If he hasn't responded to your last email, I'd say don't write him again or ask him out - but if you guys are friends and stuff, I'd say its ok to write him in a week or 2 to check in and see how he's doing and see what happens then. I'm guessing he did want to take you out since he asked you before, but I'm sure that the pressure of losing a job and having to find new employment takes priority right now. Good luck
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