blkdots Posted January 19, 2008 Posted January 19, 2008 What would your definition of a "break" be? Im wondering since i'm "dating" this guy who wants a break, he isn't sure why he wants a break but he just does. I gave him his space like he wanted, BUT he still calls me, text's me, wants to hangout as much as we did before, and he still wants me to stay over in the evenings. Im not sure how thats a break but to him it is.
JosieMcCoy Posted January 19, 2008 Posted January 19, 2008 He probably had another opportunity with a girl and wants to keep you on the side lines. in the lull time, he calls you. Just a guess!!!
Lucasarts Posted January 19, 2008 Posted January 19, 2008 well if i need a break from someone its for a good reason another girl (though I would "break it off" before going after another), work, family issues/commitments, or a career opportunity (not saying the girl isn't important, but if my dream job is open for me to take, im taking it sorry). maybe he just wants a lil bit of space? or maybe like josie said, he either has a booty call and doesn't want the B/F floating around him, or hes looking for booty calls.
THE THRONE Posted January 19, 2008 Posted January 19, 2008 Break = someone/something else is a higher priority and interest is dwindling. Have you ever heard the saying that goes something like, "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"
EYECANDY000 Posted January 19, 2008 Posted January 19, 2008 Sounds like there maybe somebody else in the picture that he is trying to explore. Sounds like he doesnt want the full commitment of you calling and texting him, but its ok for him to call and text you whenever he wants. Tell him if he wants a break then thats exactly what it needs to be. the texting, phone calls, and visits needs to come to a cease. and if he wants to be with you then, nothing should change.
Keara Posted January 19, 2008 Posted January 19, 2008 My definition of "break" = Over. Maybe this isn't the best mentality to have, or maybe I'm just really confident in being me, but if a guy wants a break from me then I'm gone. I need a level of commitment from someone before I'll invest the energy necessary to keep a relationship alive. If he's giving 10% (calls and texts but the wants space) but wants me available when he's decided he wants me, then I don't see any reason for me to waste my precious time on him. I deserve better. If he can't see that, then we shouldn't be in a relationship ever. Don't play this stupid game. He could've asked for you're help in dealing with problems he might be having. He could've explained why he needed to devote more energy to other things and given you the decision to accept less in order to support him, or call it quits. He could've talked to you about his problems given both of you the opportunity to find a solution that would work for the both of you. He didn't. This was his decision and you have to accept it. And in my experience, the majority of times a guy wants space but "doesn't know why" has to do with his dick and another girl.
OpenBook Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 My definition of "break" = Over. I agree. When my last BF told me he needed a "break", I gave him a permanent one. Seriously -- it was over, at least for me. He couldn't believe I could just walk away like that. And I couldn't believe he had the nerve to ask for a "break." End of story.
Eagle362 Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 I can say the most likely reasons would be The more likelyhes evaluating the relationship and wanting some sapce to clear his head. He may feel preasured or smothered by you, if you really like him back off. On the other hand he may have found a "greener pasture" if so you can really just hope he gets over the idea before he stuffs you two up.
4givrnt4gtr Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 I can say the most likely reasons would be The more likelyhes evaluating the relationship and wanting some sapce to clear his head. . I agree. If i were to ask for a break would be because Im feeling overwhelmed by the relationship. Either because we're having problems that I cant seem to get a handle on, or because I found a side of their personality Im not sure I can deal with. I would ask for a break to get some perspective, see what my feelings for that person are without them around to influence them by their ongoing actions. Bassically, people usually ask for a break to evaluate the benefits of the relationship vs the cost of being in it. Hope your SO finds it that the cost is less than the benefits! Good luck!
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