MysticStar Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 I've seen enough posts here about the husband not getting enough sex or any sex. Sex has been an issue in my own marriage. So ladies, here is the question...... What can men do (if anything) so that their wives will want to have sex with them or have sex more often?
OldEurope Posted January 19, 2008 Posted January 19, 2008 Its no great mystery, Mystic.....My thoughts: 1. Excellent physical appearance 2. A certain air of calm about you. Not being "on" all the time. 3. Getting out of the roomate rut and thinking again to when you first dated: mystery and a slight bit of distance 4. Seduction without words. Looking very good and just going after her, a bit of the male of the species on the prowl 5. A bit of separation...one of the two of you going away as if on a business trip and then coming back. That can "refresh" things 6. Turning off the T V, radio, lights, neighbors, newspapers and just being quiet. That puts the mind to rest 7. Reading her correctly. That "irked" or agitated air a woman can have can bubble up when she feels resentful, underappreciated, that she's "doing all the work" etc. Swoop in and try to soften those hardened corners a bit with sympathy and affection. Women really do respond to this. A woman must ALWAYS feel "wanted" in so many more ways than sex... if not she will bit by bit turn on you, or turn on her heel and go. 8. The ultimate rule: you treat her like a queen, she treats you like a king, and you two have your realm to yourselves. OE
Curmudgeon Posted January 19, 2008 Posted January 19, 2008 In short, romance your bride daily in small ways, but decidedly romance her. Why would any man stop wooing the woman he loves just because she marries him? That should make him all the more attentive and it should also be a two-way street. I didn't do it in my former marriage which is part-and-parcel of why it failed.
Sierra Sunrise Posted January 19, 2008 Posted January 19, 2008 Don't only touch her everytime to get off with her. That is the biggest irritation. I hate that. I honestly do. That can put me off sex for a long time and even make it where we do not want you even touching us for fear that everytime you do it's a double standard. Try helping out around the house without being asked or being told that something needs doing. Try giving her a massage with no agenda. Make a surprise date and just get away from it all. Do these things consistently to show her that you're romantic. That is the quickest way inside of a woman's panties or to turn her on. I will agree with the other poster about excellent appearance. you need that. You also just need to be kind in general. That helps a lot
Curmudgeon Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 I will agree with the other poster about excellent appearance. you need that. I'm in my 60s. At this stage of life, "excellent" becomes rather subjective and decidedly in the eyes of the beholder.
OldEurope Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 Oh Lion King...() Don't you know that 60 is the new 40? I am in my late thirties and I know and see very attractive men in their sixties on a daily basis mostly through work or socially. With the self confidence gained through wisdom and life experience on top of that, it can all make for an alluring package to the ladies.... And people "in general" take better care of themselves now more than ever (though obese kids seem to be a US epidemic---don't know what is up with that) and "age" isn't the issue it used to be... PS Happy to see the "strong" Lion avatar back and not his sad looking self that you had there for a while. xo OE
Curmudgeon Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 Oh Lion King...() Don't you know that 60 is the new 40? I am in my late thirties and I know and see very attractive men in their sixties on a daily basis mostly through work or socially. With the self confidence gained through wisdom and life experience on top of that, it can all make for an alluring package to the ladies.... And people "in general" take better care of themselves now more than ever (though obese kids seem to be a US epidemic---don't know what is up with that) and "age" isn't the issue it used to be... PS Happy to see the "strong" Lion avatar back and not his sad looking self that you had there for a while. xo OE No time for sad self. Promotion last month which will decidedly increase the retirement bottom line, not to mention the present one. Life is all too busy but good. bgreatly increased responsibilities and all, having moved from middle to upper management. "Alluring package," huh? Is THAT what it's been about for the past decade or so? And here I though they were just playing! I guess you're right. The 60s do seem to have become the new 40s. Hurt me some more! Turn-about's fair play. Am I allowed to say I know some -- well, a lot of -- women in their late 30s (and older as well) who are absolutely stunning? Younger seems to lack something. Wait! I know what it is. It's the substance and poise that comes with life experience. Not a hit on those who are younger, but I wouldn't! Now you, on the other hand...
Sierra Sunrise Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 Lion, My quote on the appearance thing was not to step on your toes. However you can't get complacent in taking care of yourself. No one is promised forever and if you let yourself go then you're pretty much screwed, right? It's about being just keeping yourself up so you constantly remain attractive to your mate. If you just consistently let yourself go then how can you be attractive. I've seen tons of men post on these boards talking about how their wives have let themselves go and it upsets them, well we're no exception. Oh and by the way I have seen tons of 60+ men that are very attractive. My favorite attractive man of all time was Jack Lemmon, not the younger Jack Lemmon, but the older one. I'm only 32. So there you have it
Curmudgeon Posted January 20, 2008 Posted January 20, 2008 Lion, My quote on the appearance thing was not to step on your toes. However you can't get complacent in taking care of yourself. No one is promised forever and if you let yourself go then you're pretty much screwed, right? It's about being just keeping yourself up so you constantly remain attractive to your mate. If you just consistently let yourself go then how can you be attractive. I've seen tons of men post on these boards talking about how their wives have let themselves go and it upsets them, well we're no exception. Oh and by the way I have seen tons of 60+ men that are very attractive. My favorite attractive man of all time was Jack Lemmon, not the younger Jack Lemmon, but the older one. I'm only 32. So there you have it You and OldEurope are both in the same decade. Obviously, women in their 30s rule! Excuse me while I go cool down. I think I'm in heat!
OldEurope Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 PPS To The Big C... Congratulations on the promotion to upper management, by the way! Now you are truly leader of the Pride...stalking the corporate savannah...Out for the kill...your inferiors bouncing away like scared gazelles... ...and it makes us 30-somethings just purr with admiration...! A cyber toast to you! Cling! xo OE (meow)
Curmudgeon Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 PPS To The Big C... Congratulations on the promotion to upper management, by the way! Now you are truly leader of the Pride...stalking the corporate savannah...Out for the kill...your inferiors bouncing away like scared gazelles... ...and it makes us 30-somethings just purr with admiration...! A cyber toast to you! Cling! xo OE (meow) Savannah and some souther hospitality is sounding good right now; not to mention some belles as well. Strokes resulting in purrs isn't new Gnus, is it?
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