Green Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 dude you strike me as some what of a naive person. Why are you on here asking if this girl is going to like you, why not make some kind of move. At 18 I'm sure you have very little if any experience with women, so just relize nothings wrong with being rejected.
Krytie TV Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 Im not a girl, but personaly I think you need to worry a little less about women will be attracted to and try to live your life for the things your attracted to OP, I think you missed the most important post on this thread. If you try to convince girls how awesome you are, you're sure to fail every time. Do your thing, let the cards fall where they may.
peace_pipe Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 If a guy told me all that, I'd yawn. He would sound like a poser to me, and someone who was feeding me lines and trying to make himself appear to be this Godlike individual. It's too contrived and too fake. I mean, why not throw in that this guy is ONLY interested in my pleasure, and would go shoe-shopping with me and hold the bags. Personally, I don't like guys who TELL me what they are about. I much prefer to observe them in action, and draw my own conclusions. Jill has spoken. Take notes...
peace_pipe Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 Because of this: I would think he's boring and a loser, so no. Your kind need to multiply, then send some my way.
Lucasarts Posted January 19, 2008 Posted January 19, 2008 ok OP reading your original questions and skimming through the replies... First off. NEVER TELL A GIRL THOSE THINGS. It clearly indicates a lack of any self-esteem/confidence if you have to tell a girl that you are these things. I know you changed it to "observed." That's a little different, and it all depends on the girl (as clearly indicated by previous posters who replied here). Reading your replies and getting more information on your situation I have to ask: You seem to be pretty together with what you want to do with your life, so why are you so hesitant to display that same kind of confidence to the girl(s) you like? And what is it about this girl that makes you attracted to her? (besides her looking "smoking hot") If she's dumb as a brick, I don't know how you could survive being with her...and if you're serious about being in the MLB draft...make sure you get a "real" girl...not a gold-digger... And don't approach a girl likes shes a business...that'll get you no-where. Treat her like a human being, find out who she is, what she likes, what she does, and what appeals to her. It's no fun to catch something that turns out to be everything you don't want and its vice versa as well. one last thing to note: You're a superstar high school jock, how the HELL are you not having girls just throw themselves at you? I can understand that you wouldn't have much game (but lack of confidence?!) but usually even the ugliest jocks get the hottest poon in high school...and college...
BeautifulMystique Posted January 19, 2008 Posted January 19, 2008 ok OP reading your original questions and skimming through the replies... First off. NEVER TELL A GIRL THOSE THINGS. It clearly indicates a lack of any self-esteem/confidence if you have to tell a girl that you are these things. I know you changed it to "observed." That's a little different, and it all depends on the girl (as clearly indicated by previous posters who replied here). Reading your replies and getting more information on your situation I have to ask: You seem to be pretty together with what you want to do with your life, so why are you so hesitant to display that same kind of confidence to the girl(s) you like? And what is it about this girl that makes you attracted to her? (besides her looking "smoking hot") If she's dumb as a brick, I don't know how you could survive being with her...and if you're serious about being in the MLB draft...make sure you get a "real" girl...not a gold-digger... And don't approach a girl likes shes a business...that'll get you no-where. Treat her like a human being, find out who she is, what she likes, what she does, and what appeals to her. It's no fun to catch something that turns out to be everything you don't want and its vice versa as well. one last thing to note: You're a superstar high school jock, how the HELL are you not having girls just throw themselves at you? I can understand that you wouldn't have much game (but lack of confidence?!) but usually even the ugliest jocks get the hottest poon in high school...and college... Lucas, that's a nice piece of input. OP, girls at any age like guys with confidence. Work on that and go with the flow. It's good that you have the drive to be the best for a girl but don't forget that at the end of the day, a girl will want a guy with a big heart. Someone who isn't cocky, arrogant or self-centered. I think it's really cool if a guy doesn't drink or smoke.
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted January 19, 2008 Posted January 19, 2008 one last thing to note: You're a superstar high school jock, how the HELL are you not having girls just throw themselves at you? I can understand that you wouldn't have much game (but lack of confidence?!) but usually even the ugliest jocks get the hottest poon in high school...and college... How long has it been since you've been a member of an educational institution? Jocks are soooo out of style.
Nevermind Posted January 19, 2008 Posted January 19, 2008 One thing: the girl is supposed to notice that you only ever flirt with her, yet you also have a crush on this other girl (with bf). Those two things don't go together and most likely she WILL notice that you are not solely interested in her. I'd clear my head before advancing further. And as the others already pointed out: dating is no business, preparation is nice, but don't overdue this part. Be yourself and try to have a good time as well as make sure that she is having a good time, too. Good luck!
torranceshipman Posted January 19, 2008 Posted January 19, 2008 Yea....I agree athletes get all the girls. I speak as a former cheerleader here and I usually end up with the popular guy for whatever reason...I'm surprised you're saying this stuff. I bet you don't hang out with the jocks. I'd chill on the 'need to be in the top 1%' etc...there is always going to be someone smarter, better looking and better at sport than you, or me, or all of us...just stick with your ambitions, work hard, and let girls either fall for you - or decide they want something else - without trying to change for them. For the record I would never date a guy who smokes but I really enjoy going out for drinks and cutting loose n having fun so a tee total guy would NOT be right for me. And the 'mke millions' speech - I've heard that from guys and you only get bragging rights when you've actually made the millions, lol! But money doesnt interest me - however, ambition and a strong work ethic does. IMO true self confidence is the hottest thing ever...really cultivate that and you have a great chance of hookin up with the hotties, specially if you're an athlete with brains. I guess I go for the alpha male type so thats my take but obviously other female posters might have a totaly different idea!!
Lucasarts Posted January 19, 2008 Posted January 19, 2008 Response to Chariot: I guess maybe in your area jocks are out of style, but from what I see and have seen (I go to art school, but I STILL SEE jocks everywhere with some attractive girls...altho i have to admit most of these girls are CAKED with makeup so its hard to really see any facial expressions beside the barbie smile and the barbie stare. I guess a lack of emotion is required when you date a guy with an ego bigger than yours) Also most of the jocks are really fugly dudes, and im not sayin that b/c im bitter (I'm not, as girls are also attracted to the artist type, and they are usually the cute, intelligent ones) but its just so surprising. To BeautifulMystique: Thanks, after replying to about 1000000000000000000000000000 of these threads (exaggeration) it becomes easier to figure out what the OP's weakness/problems are and just give him (cause its usually a guy, go figure) the straightforward facts and details. Plus its always a nice feeling to believe that what you said could actually help a guy regain his confidence and composure. And I think I've said enough about this topic...theres plenty of useful info here for the OP to benefit from. Lets just hope you apply it.
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