Casham Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 (edited) Title: Bit Confused Hey all, I'm new to the forums. 19, Male and from Aus A Bit of background, Met this really nice girl to the end of last year. She was single I was single, got her number the next day at work. Waited a week, then contacted her bout going out, gave her my msn addy. Went out on the 27th and the 28th with her we got on real well. Then we went out at the start of jan and saw a romantic movie, her pick. She went away for a bit then I told her via sms that I wanted to talk to her. We went out when she came back from her holiday and went bowling then eventually had coffee, I asked her out officially and everything was fine. She felt the same way and was going to bring it up if I didn't. She cooked me dinner one night (last sunday), I got her flowers and chocolates. Tried asking her after dinner when we'd next plan something and she was only free on the 27th. Finished the night off with a kiss to her cheek, which was progress for me because I'm quite shy. Half way through the week I tried to make plans for Friday, Picnic on the beach while watching the sunset but she was busy. Because I'm not going to be around on the 27th (The free day we planned when I had dinner at hers) I offered for the next weekend but she said she was also busy. Then I suggested some time in the week again she'd have to check if she was busy. Over msn I asked her if everything was fine, asked her if I had said or done anything to offend her on that Sunday night. But then I had to go, so I logged off. A few minutes later I got an sms telling me that we should go for a coffee sometime and she could talk to me about it then. So either that could mean she wants to talk to me about why she's so busy or when to plan the night I'm cooking her dinner or what I'm dreading most is her rejecting me for whatever reason. I've just come out of a bad relationship 2 months ago and I seem to have real **** luck when it comes to relationships. They always go wrong So what do you think ? I'm fretting quite a lot and seriously stumped to what this means. My current mood is along the lines of "I knew this would happen, just when I thought life was starting to look up" Although I could be jumping to conclusions. Edited January 18, 2008 by Casham
BeautifulMystique Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 If you didn't mention that you are from Australia, I would have thought you were the guy I knew from my past! You practically re-wrote what I went through. Actually what that guy went through! For me, it happened quite the same way. I cooked for him, only because I liked him very much but after that, I had some issues to resolved. It was a family matter and I wasn't comfortable enough to share the info with him. He kept asking me out but I said no... only because I really couldn't at that time. After everything settled down, I called him to catch up on things. I told him I wasn't comfortable enough in sharing what I was going through although I had the hots for him! To cut my long story shortie, we dated for a few months. It didn't work out the way we wanted it to cos I had to move. He thought I wasn't interested and he did jumped to conclusions. The thing is that, that was what we both went through. Although your situation is almost the same, it does not mean it will have the same ending. Just meet up and hear what she has to say.
Author Casham Posted January 18, 2008 Author Posted January 18, 2008 Maybe I knew you in a previous life, heh. She's all I could want in a girl, but I reckon my current feelings is more to do with mistrust and the personal expectation that nothing can go right for me, due to prior relationships. So I tend to jump to conclusions quickly and dwell on them. We've both met each other's family's. My family loves her and their parents like me. I'm just hoping to break this cycle of misfortune and finally have something to look forward to in life. But I guess it can't be anything too bad, like you wouldn't cook dinner for someone you don't like. Heh I wish I would've found this forum last weekend because then maybe instead of a kiss on the cheek I could've used the phrase "You wouldn't have me arrested if I stole a Kiss from you would you?". Might I add though. . .that I was somewhat late for the dinner. I felt really ashamed. But I doubt that's the reason she's not available. It's probably me being me, looking at every small thing and turning it into a bad thing. Cheers for your words of advice Beautiful Mystique.
BeautifulMystique Posted January 19, 2008 Posted January 19, 2008 Lol Maybe we have met in previous life! Ok honey, lose the lame pick up line, please!!! Don't feel to bad about being late the other night. I'm sure you didn't mean to be late intentionally. I hope all is well and do keep me updated.
Green Posted January 19, 2008 Posted January 19, 2008 look dude I am you 4 years into the a future and as an American. Lose the lame pick up line and just be a man and go for that kiss. Not kissing a girl and being to shy really can screw things up for you. Theres a really good chance this girl no longer likes you, so if I were you I'd just start dating other people (I'm not saying give up on this girl). Be a man! get confident, dont let every posible little thing get you down. You sound stressed out by this dating game, you need to have some fun with it and enjoy yourself and you'll see things will work out much better. If she likes you she'll let you know, definetly try to kiss her after that talk.
Author Casham Posted January 21, 2008 Author Posted January 21, 2008 Yeah so I was at a mates 19th at a pub. And she was there too, totally wasted. She went for a walk and I got a bit worried so I went looking for her, found her talking to her friends over the mobile. Then she said to me "oh yeh that thing i wanted to talk to you about, i want to be friends, soorrreeeey" So yeah, I guess my intuition was right, heh.
Green Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 Yeah so I was at a mates 19th at a pub. And she was there too, totally wasted. She went for a walk and I got a bit worried so I went looking for her, found her talking to her friends over the mobile. Then she said to me "oh yeh that thing i wanted to talk to you about, i want to be friends, soorrreeeey" So yeah, I guess my intuition was right, heh. I told you to try to kiss her!!!!!!! U just dont listen oh well, you'll get another chance try taking my advice with the next one
Author Casham Posted January 21, 2008 Author Posted January 21, 2008 I told you to try to kiss her!!!!!!! U just dont listen oh well, you'll get another chance try taking my advice with the next one Yeah, but when I girl tells you she just wants to be friends. Hardly the moment to kiss her, eh ?
Green Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 dude you were at party, you guys were drinking, you should have just kissd her, or you should have guilted her into a kiss after she said lets just be friends by saying "well then its farewell, please don't deny me a goodbye kiss" and then make the kiss good and hot you know win her over, her body would be saying yes and over power her mind and you could have gone all the way dude...... Look in the future try to be a little more confident, and dont sweat this I know your probably hurting now and believe me we all get rejected alot,
Leia Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 You should have kissed her and then when she's all over you, tell her "Ssssoooorrrreeeyyyyy, I just wanted to have one last kiss... FRIEND" What is up with some girls lately?
Author Casham Posted January 21, 2008 Author Posted January 21, 2008 (edited) Well this morning after a rather random gym session with a mate, I left my watch in his car so I was thinking of picking it up tonight. He works with my Ex so I was thinking maybe it would be a good idea to drop in, pick up my watch and on my way out say hello and tell her she owes me coffee and walk out. Thoughts ? When it comes down to it, if I can't be her Boyfriend I'm more than happy to be her friend. No reason in throwing away a nice girl. Edited January 21, 2008 by Casham
Green Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 my thoughts are its over with this girl... shes not really your ex you never even kissed her...Go spend ur energy having coffee with girls who might be into you
Author Casham Posted January 21, 2008 Author Posted January 21, 2008 Heh, I knew it was over with her mate. I was talking more about the friend side of things. Thanks for your guidance KMT.
Green Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 Heh, I knew it was over with her mate. I was talking more about the friend side of things. Thanks for your guidance KMT. Its a bad idea, make friends with a different girl if thats what you want. At this point your looking for more then a friend in cute girls. Get out there and try to start some romantic stuff with other girls, if you became friends with this girl you'd just be wasting your energy on something your tricking yourself about
Prodigal Princess Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 I agree with KMT! From a girl's point of view, I would think it kind of creepy and desperate if a guy I rejected (so callously, too) tried to be my friend. Grow a pair and move on!
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