sakeeta Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 In spite of my every effort not to, I have a lot of anger and bitterness about my ex, our relationship, and our breakup. I am well aware that I am only hurting myself with it, and I don't want to be this way. How do I get rid of it??? I want to move forward, and I'm not sure I can until I can get rid of this!
jdeedee Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 (edited) I am not sure where the anger you have is stemming from but you may benefit from deep breathing exercises and yoga. "Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." - Buddha Therapy may also be a good idea if your anger, resentment, and bitterness are truly unresolved. Edited April 27, 2024 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
alphamale Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 I want to move forward, and I'm not sure I can until I can get rid of this! only time will heal these types of wounds SAKEETA
amaysngrace Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 I find it helpful to focus on the positive of the situation by seeing the whole picture realistically. Some of that may include admitting where I was wrong and some of that may include seeing the other person more objectively as well. Nothing is all good or all bad. When I try to get past things that are bothersome to me I try to see in gray. To have complete hatred for someone you once loved is not truthful. They have to have some good qualities or you would have never been with them to begin with. It's okay to like a part of that person even if you are angry or feel betrayed by them. I also try to dissect the relationship. I look for the other person's weaknesses and try to feel sorry for them. I also look to my own and see how theirs and my weaknesses played upon each other, leaving us a weak couple. I think when we start looking to ourselves and concentrate on ourselves it helps us let go of the other person more easily. And it also gives us a better understanding of what we want for next time.
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