screwedup55 Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 (edited) I'd appreciate opinions from women more. Thanks. My gf broke up with me about a month ago. She said she was going to take a break from relationships because she had always moved from one relationship to another with few breaks in between. We agreed to continue our friendship. I found out a little while after she broke up with me, her ex (who broke her heart badly and broke up with her in bad way) came back and wanted to get back together. She agreed and they hooked back up rather quickly. I would say in around a weeks time. I'm trying to get her back and she tells me that we were meant to be friends and she didn't feel the same way that I did and that she is very busy. She continues by saying that we can still talk but should not hang out anymore until we can just be friends. We did hang out before the ex came back. She totally avoids telling me her ex came back and she's going to give him another chance. We still talk, but it is nothing like the period of time before her ex came back and she broke up with me. I'm not expecting the same, but it feels like our friendship just hit a wall. Technically she never lied to me, because everything she said was true. Why does it feel like she lied to me? Why couldn't she just tell me what was going on and that she had not gotten over her ex? Why am I angry with her about how she handled this? Why do I think I deserve more openness about what happened? Why do I think I deserve more openness about how she wants to handle our friendship now? Why do I feel I didn't get a fair shot with her because she wasn't over her ex? Why does this feel so unfair? I don't understand why she is handling the situation between us the way she is. Does she think I will judge her badly because she took back her ex so quickly despite what he did? Does she think she's already hurt me enough and she doesn't want to hurt me more? Why am I trying to understand what happened and her current motivations? I know I shouldn't be dwelling, but I can't help it. Despite this, I still love her and am still in love with her. This love stuff is great, but it also sucks. Edited January 18, 2008 by screwedup55
Hippy_Chick Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 Hi there! I know the pain you are going through, I feel for you really I do. I don't knwo the real reason why your girl friend brok eup with you but it does seem quite a coincidence that she's now back with her Ex so soon. I have a very strong feeling that the was already planned before you broke up and what she told was was perhaps to try and save your feelings. My only advice is that you take a break from her for a while. If you are still in love with her it will kill you to see her with the Ex which will inevitably happen. Just explain that you need a bit of time to get over the break up and then in a few months you can work on being friends. You have to focus on yourself at the minute hun, if you keep focussing on her, you will prolong the pain. Hope this helps! Xxxx
Author screwedup55 Posted January 22, 2008 Author Posted January 22, 2008 Thanks Hippy. I know she did not have this planned. It was just the timing of events that it made it seem that way.
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