LilBear Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 He dumped me almost 2 months ago. We were each other's first loves, and he has a new gf, less than 2 weeks after breaking up with me. 5 weeks after breaking up with me, and after almost a week of not hearing from him, he suddenly texted, saying that I was the best, and he started reminiscing about the good times we've had, and even brought up our first kiss, and said that I now kiss with so much passion, and wanted to meet up with me. I told him I was busy, he asked me to give him a date I would be free. I told him it wasn't the most appropriate things to say, now that he's got a gf. He got rather angry and told me thanks for telling him how I felt and that he guess I didn't even want to see him. So we settled on meeting up on the 14th. On the 6th he texted asking what time we were meeting on the 7th. I reminded him it was on the 14th. On the 8th he texted again, asking if I was free on that day because he gets to use the car then, and he isn't free on Mondays, and he has got no car to use on Mondays. I said if he cannot make it then it's fine. I honestly did not think that after his trying to change the date from the date I originally gave him (14th...today) to a time which suits him better, that he was going to turn up on the 14th. Guess what. He actually called and said "Today is the 14th". 7th-13th January update: For the whole of last week I've been pretty much minding my own business after he, on Tuesday morning, texted to see if I was free to meet up with him on that day. I wasn't going anywhere to meet him if it wasn't the 14th. I told him I wasn't free and he went "Oh, you just don't wanna meet up with me. I'm not really free on Mondays". I just replied "OK". And I pretty much ignored him that week. He came on MSN and texted and on Thursday he went on MSN and said "I know you have no classes today, I do hope you can reply" I just replied "yes?" and he was like "don't do this to me.....don't be so mean....". The next night he texted "Until when do you plan to ignore me?" So the next morning, saturday, I replied "Was busy last night. What's up?" His instant reply: Why ignore? I texted back "Wasn't ignoring. Anything you have to say?" His instant reply "I feel you're ignoring me. Seriously" I replied "Nothing important right? Have a nice day *smiley*" He replied after a few minutes "Sucky day" and after a few more minutes "Wanna say that you're still the best" (Yeah...he said that once, like, 3 weeks back) That night he texted again "You free tonight cos I'm going to Gurney" (a shopping mall 10 minutes' walk away from my place). I was getting ready to go for dinner with friends so I replied "I already have plans" and he replied "You're just trying to ignore me" An hour later, he texted our mutual friend, also his best friend: Tonight free to go out for a game? Is it ok if I get back with LilBear? this idea ok? And then he called on the 14th and said he would come pick me up..and arrived in under 15 minutes. So he came and we drove practically in silence...thn he went "U mean, mean *nickname for me*" I said I was not being mean, just busy Then we reached the bakery we used to enjoy going to, he bought some food and a drink..and asked if there was anything I wanted to say to him. I said no, has he anything to say to me. He said "Wanna see if you're ok, and if you're fine". I said "Yes I am" Then he said "that's good" I had a new hairstyle, he told me it was ugly..and asked why I dyed it. And then I was wearing something different than usual, I usually wear t-shirts and jeans, but I was wearing a dress then, and heels, and he said I looked better in t-shirt and jeans. I was also wearing make up, but he did not comment. When we broke up, he said I'd be better if I wore make up and to slim down a bit. I've lost 15 pounds and I've never looked better. Friends say he's shocked to see I've changed, because he did mention after breaking up with me that he didn't think I could change. So, they conclude because of pride, and not having to eat his own words, he had to say that. He asked me if I was busy these days, I said yes...and he asked if I went to his best friend's father's funeral (which happened a month ago, it's weird that he chose to ask me in person, instead of asking his best friend) and I said yes, and then asked if he went...he said no. And he talked about selling his old phone, and using a borrowed older one and he said "You don't know what you've got until it's gone" I ask him what he meant...he said he meant his old phone Then he finished eating and he drove me home. On the way, I said, "You asked me out for a drink just to ask me if I'm ok and fine? Nnd he said, "Also wanna ask you why you're so mean to me" I asked him "What do you mean by "mean"?" he said "Why you're so slow to reply to my texts...very very slow..and why you ignore me on msn...and I know that you're there!" I said "were you waiting around for me to reply?" he said no Then he said "It seems you're better off without me" I said "I might... maybe" he said "You will be better off without me..cos i'm f***ed up" I asked him "Are you ok? Is there anything you wanna tell me?" He said "no...yes...depends what you mean by ok" And he said "I won't be seeing you again for quite some time" I just went "all right" He sent me home. I said thanks and told him to have a nice day he said "I mostly definitely will" Then I texted him "Hope you're ok. Let me know if anything" he reply "Oh yea...thx for the bank in" (money I owed him) I said "You're welcome. Have a nice day =)" He replied "Rather not bring you into it. Lousy life" No mention of his girlfriend. Last night, he went out with his best friend, and the best friend asked why he texted about wanting to get back together with me, my ex just mentioned "typed wrongly". He did type out my name. Sorry it had to be so long.
torranceshipman Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 Wow thts totally weird. Sounds like he's really into you and got really miserable at the rejection he felt from you when you met up. It was immature of him to criticise you and probably felt you are getting to be out of his league and doesnt want to say he is trying to get you back again as he thinks he'll be rejected and hs pride will be hurt. I think you should just straight up ask him what is going on with him, and how he feels and be honest with him too. All this strange acting is gettin you nowhere! And say he clearly likes you, what is the deal with the girlfriend, because if he wants you back he has to do it when he is SINGLE and not when he is with a girlfriend! Thats if you want him of course - if you think he is too immature for you, go find a hottie (with 15 pounds lost and a hot new wardrobe...I'm sure you're not short on offers, heehee!)
Author LilBear Posted January 18, 2008 Author Posted January 18, 2008 I haven't heard from him in four days, not since the night of the days we met up. I've changed my msn personal message to "seek those who have your best interests at heart". (Well, I was referring to him, and asking him to seek guidance from those he knew has his best interests at heart, like his best friend). He was the only one on my contact list who actually asked "you ok?"
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