FooledOnce Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 Hey everyone. I won't bore you with my long story, but i moved to this new town with my ex-gf and we broke up 3 month later. Since then, I've lost about 30 lbs and things are good at work, but I haven't really had anyone to hang out with. Everyone I know at work is about 10 years older than me and married. How does one find a new social circle? I know a some people in town, but they were her friends and thus off-limits. How am I supposed to get out there and meet chicks anyways? Can't go to the bar by yourself. And i'm not even sure how to get started with girls anyways. I haven't been single since i was 19 (25 now). When I was 19, girls liked me. I had the "drink lots of beer and be really funny" play down. Now, i'm a 25 year old professional who hangs out by himself every night. Six years with one girl, then zero dates in 4 months. I'm still fun, but you need a group of friends to be fun in, you know? Where does one find a new group to hang with?
jdeedee Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 Have you thought about going out to a concert, coffee bar, book club, knitting circle? I don't know, are there any things you are interested in that you can find others enjoy? I'm in the same boat, my only real friend has a girlfriend and neither of us drink so where do I go to meet new people? If you put yourself out there, though, you will usually find people willing to join you. I personally wouldn't ever want to meet a significant other at a bar, I just don't like that scene. That said, there is nothing wrong with going to a show at a club and having a few drinks/talking to people around you. Most people will reciprocate if you start conversation. It's all about making that first and very difficult step.
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