Texan Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 Well, seems I am back again... and maybe that's not a bad thing. Was dating a woman in Louisiana up until late October. Had the relationship, things seemed to be going well (at least that was the feeling I was getting from her)... and then suddenly... nothing. She came up to my area on a Sunday to drop a bombshell on me... she met someone local and decided she'd rather be with him. (I have to say at this juncture that I respect the fact that she came to me and told me face to face.) There were several ways I could have handled it... but, as I told her, "if this is what you truly want, then go for it." I admitted that, yes, I was disappointed and would have preferred to be the man in her life, but that if she felt the pull to go somewhere else, then she should do so. I'll be fine... and so I thought. Well, went through the holidays literally alone (wasn't able to be with the family for Thanksgiving and Christmas. My daughter was with her mothers family... and I'm not really welcome there)... and since New Years have wondered whether or not I should get back out or not. After 50, seems like there are far too many jaded people out there to go through the motions anymore. I'm 51 (and have been told I look 40-45 depending on who was talking) and yet it seems that everyone would rather be with the bad boy rather than a good man. I've never been one to date women more than 10 years my junior (although my wife was 13 years younger at the time), but lately I've been approached a few times by women in their late 20s who seem to want to be more than friends. Admittedly, on one hand it's rather exciting, but on the other I can't see that it would be worth pursuing due to the age difference. I wonder if that's just a me thing... Anyway, not really sure why I felt compelled to write this except to say that we all have to honor and respect the decisions of those who choose to leave. It's painful, but at least she was woman enough to come tell me rather than make me wonder where she was. I can take a little comfort in that. Hope everyone else finds success in meeting someone compatible.
JustinWolf Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 I'm really glad that you see this as something positive. It's a great attitude and I used to have that 100%, these days it comes and goes away just like that. So, honnestly, I think that's a great quality you have and keep it up. As for the age thing, it doesn't mather what people are going to tell you, they could tell you to just go ahead and be more than friends with these girls that are younger but in the end, it all depends on how you feel, your emotions... Think about it carefully and then make your decision. If you like the exciting part, then why not go for it And I truly hope you find your compatible soulmate too. Great person, wish you the best!
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