girlie908 Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 i need some help because i'm in a pretty confusing situation. i go to same university w/ my ex-bf, and we have the same mutual friends, are in similar classes, and are on the same e-boards together. we hang out all the time, but also re-hash some of our old fights quite frequently. we recently just went away for winter vacation, and didn't speak for 3 weeks cuz i was in another country. i tried to take the time to get over him (we had been broken up for 6 months, went out for a year and a half), but i didn't. when i got back to the states, we talked and he drove me back up to school. but it was crazy bc when we saw each other, it was like we couldn't get enough of each other. we couldn't stop kissing and holding each other, eventually leading to hooking up. before i went away, we had hooked up occasionally, but it seemed like the passion had faded from watever we had. so since then we have been kinda inseparable, and have even held hands when we went shopping, but still, we're really confusing. i like him a lot and always have, but we have had so many issues in the past and have crazy fights, plus i'm not sure if either of us is able to commit with such hectic school schedules, so i'm not sure if i should say anything or talk about our relationships in any way. i feel like i want something more, but i don't want to push it, or am not sure if even i can commit to something more, but i do know i care about him a lot and would want to get back together, but part of me is scared that we will fight like crazy again. ahhh what should i do!?
Lee725 Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 If i was in your shoes i would not persue another relationship with him. History has a way of repeating itself. Obviously there is a connection there because you keep coming back to each other, but realistically you know the past and you know that current circumstances are going to make this relationship more difficult than it was before. Letting go at this point, is prob the best course, later on when your lives are more settled and you have both had a chance to truly miss each other (3 weeks is nothing), you may find the clarity and patience with each other to give it another go. Good luck
Author girlie908 Posted January 22, 2008 Author Posted January 22, 2008 so we decided just to be friends. i'm dumb. but part of me wonders, wat makes me repeatedly go back, and how can i prevent that vicious cycle from happening? like we always say we won't talk anymore, won't be hookin up anymore, etc..but then 2 weeks later i'm sleepin over again. wat's my deal!?
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