daranik Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 Hey im a new member but let me explain the situation, im 18, finding myself mroe lonely as the days go and not being around school friends anymore, not being too lucky in high school ive kinda gotten myself into a rut, my good friend just got himself a new girlfriend, she has a friend whos boyfriend is a dick and cheated on her but shes taken him back despite that, they are gonna have a get together so me and her can meet, lmao yeh sounds lame i know. I have a hard time finding things to talk about, im interested in very few social things and that can only get the convo so far, so really what im asking is, how should i engage in chat in this type of situation? Ive been quite shy in the past but im trying to change my ways slowly. Its not like i can talk about the same things as i do my friends, id just look weird so any pointers of pulling convos out of the air would be cool.
EYECANDY000 Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 Just be yourself.. speak with him as if he was one of your friends. Talk about future plans , college, hobbies, the commute over to your friends house, music, tv shows ..... anything!!! Conversing with someone who you feel comfortable around isnt that hard, especially if your friend is sitting with you
TKD_ben Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 okay dude, 1. be yourself, no point hiding it if u intend to be with her. 2. start the convo with a question about her. (this can be anything work, friends, the place your meeting in) 3. listen to the answer comment on it and expand from that into a convo. their u have it, hope you find a nice girl. tkd_ben.
spookie Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 Screw conversation. As one of my good friends (with whom I barely speak) says, "Words don't mean anything." IMO it's true. Most of the time they don't. Most of the time people speak not to communicate, but to fill up space. Here's what you do. Instead of hanging out in a setting that forces conversation, go and DO something with her. Something physical strenuous. Go on a hike, go swimming, play ping pong. There must be something you would both enjoy. When you've bonded over that, you'll realize you don't need to speak in order to connect; and the conversation will flow easier, with the pressure off.
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