niceandslow Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 Let's start from the beginning. I have been seeing this guy since the beginning of June. Honestly, it has been the most amazing relationship I have ever had. It is a totally different feeling. Since we have been together for almost 8 months, I assumed that him and I were a couple. He has introduced me as his girlfriend before. He tells me he loves me, and I'm the love of his life. He says I am his dream girl, and the list goes on and on and on. Well, today I finally asked what he thought of us. He said it was great and fun. I said no like what are we, are we just friends. He said yeah I think we are just friends. Yeah, I was shocked and confused. So I said you don't consider me your girlfriend, and he said no. I asked if he ever would, and he said I don't know. How could someone be with someone for this amount of time and just consider you a friend? If I am just a friend, why does he get jealous when I hang with my guy friends? Why does he tell me he loves me? Like right now, I don't even know what to think or do. I really fell in love with him. He said we would talk about it more later. What do I do?
Mistaken Identity Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 I would say to try NC to give him a chance to see what he may lose. Sounds like he's taking you for granted.
Jilly Bean Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 Are you sure he wasn't he joking? Do you guys have a sexual component to your relationship?
Author niceandslow Posted January 18, 2008 Author Posted January 18, 2008 Are you sure he wasn't he joking? Do you guys have a sexual component to your relationship? We were having a serious conversation. He didn't want to talk about it but I told him I needed to. Yes, we have been having sex.
Lee725 Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 How could someone be with someone for this amount of time and just consider you a friend? If I am just a friend, why does he get jealous when I hang with my guy friends? Why does he tell me he loves me? Like right now, I don't even know what to think or do. I really fell in love with him. He said we would talk about it more later. What do I do? HHmmm, this is really strange. I would also have to ask if there is a sexual component, this is important in establishing the foundations behind the relationship. I do have both male and female friends that i tell i love, it is because i do love them as friends and i like to make sure that they know how important they are to me. I am guessing in this situation tho a lot more has happened to make you feel as tho you have both been in a relationship. I have male friends to also can get weird if i spend time with other males, it is not because they are "jealous", it is because they may not like the other men personally & don't want to see me get hurt. This could also be an easy way to let you down so to speak, instead of breaking it off, perhaps he is saying this to prepare you for a break up? I am not sure - just a thought. EDIT - sorry, just read the last post about the sex.
Jilly Bean Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 Wow. That is just harsh. I can't even begin to get in his head to know what he is really thinking. But I would go with Mistaken's advice - pull entirely back and see how he reacts - that will tell you everything. Who knows - maybe felt like you were pressing him for a label and he freaked out and overreacted and didn't mean it?
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