stbx2007 Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 My stbx is still living here. He is looking for jobs in his home state back east so he can go there and live with his sister and her husband (no responsibility). Our divorce became difficult because he said he would make sure I didn't get anything. We have a disabled child who just turned 18 and will always need total assistance. Our oldest is 20 and is trying to move out for the second time. I am not working because I can't depend on caregivers to show up every day to take care of our child after school. I'm also trying to work as a realtor because its flexible. My stbx plans to move when he gets a job and leave me with whatever. We are trying to get our house ready to sell but not fast enough. I don't know where I will live then. My plan is to move to Las Vegas, NV. because I've always wanted to move out west. I've been researching it for months. My lawyer says to stay in the house till everything is final. I know if I move before the divorce is final that my stbx will say that we left so he should get the house. Frankly I don't want it but I do want and need half of the proceeds. In this market we may be lucky to just break even. He won't sign any papers from the lawyer (leaves the envelopes unopened) and has fired his lawyer. My lawyer is going forward. I don't know what to expect or what to do.I plan to move in the Spring. I don't want to move out of the house to another place in this city. When I move I want to move out west. I'm so scared. I have lots of education and should be able to find work wherever I go but I haven't worked in years except as a realtor. This is a bad time for that kind of work. I need a salary with benefits. My instincts change daily. One day they say just move to Nevada and the next they say stay in the house until you're kicked out. What?
Tripper Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 I'm in Canada so I don't know what the laws are where you are, but a friend of mine is going through a very similar issue with property settlement. If your name is on the deed of the house, you should be entitled to 50%. Your lawyer can confirm that. If your name is not on the deed then you need to check the laws to see what you are entitled to due to a long term marriage. I know where I am you would be entitled to 50% and the court would uphold that decision. Again, your lawyer can best advise you. Staying put in the house until a property settlement is reached is probably the best thing to do. However I would want to know a few things. If your stbx is ignoring letters from the lawyer, you are being held hostage. How long can he do this?? What recourse do you have?? I would think you need to haul him into court and sue for what's yours. My friend is in this position. Only her ex lives in the US so that complicates things. I'm so sorry you are in this position and with a child that needs continuous care. It sounds very difficult. You need to ensure that your lawyer is protecting your interests. Especially if you need child support.
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