melbar68 Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 I posted a thread here asking for advise because i thought i was in love with a MM that i was having a six month affair with. I realized yeaterday that it was not love and instead it was lust. we spent the whole day yesterday together in a hotel room and although it was nice and i enjoyed myself i realized that i was not in love and instead it was lust and when i made that discovery i have felt so good because i had the courage to write him and email breaking things off. during the time in the hotel his wife text him a few times and he text her, she then emailed him and he emailed her back, so thats who he says he was texting and emailing i didnt care to look or ask if i could look. i know now my life will be better since i think i realized his wife loves him and he loves her and i dont want to come in between them. it feels good when you could identify love and lust because it sort of unlocks your heart. they have two small children that i know he loves and according to him they were the only reason he stood in that relationship. i did enjoy the moments we had, and he woke up feelings that i thought i had lost and made feel like a woman again ehich have in a way helped me move on and hopefully find the right person for me since i was just holding on this relationship which by the way made me feel more lonely thatn when i was lone, and for those of you who are not familiar i have lived with someone for ten years, but we are separated just living in the same apartment. i havent loved that man for a couple of years now and have slept in separate rooms for a long time and hopefully he will leave my home really soon so that i can be happy again. i dont believe what i did was wrong it was something that just happened and i learned slot from this experience, something i will carry in my heart forever. FOR THOSE WOMAN INVOLVED WITH A MM: do what ever you have to do to make you happy, but distinguigh the difference between love and lust you live more free and much better and you will have control over that relationship, however if you really do feel you are falling in love think if all you guys get together for is sex and nothing else then its lust because you can not be in love with someone who doesnt spend quality time with you. i was falling in love with him before we started sleeping together since we did spend quality times together at the beach, playing handball, going to the movies ect... but when it became sexual and thats all it was nothing else i realized it would never go anywhere else, it's not worth it. i could have stood around just to have fun, but for what when i am a beautiful woman who can find a single man that can give me the same thing.
GreenEyedLady Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 FOR THOSE WOMAN INVOLVED WITH A MM: do what ever you have to do to make you happy, but distinguigh the difference between love and lust you live more free and much better and you will have control over that relationship, however if you really do feel you are falling in love think if all you guys get together for is sex and nothing else then its lust because you can not be in love with someone who doesnt spend quality time with you. I think this should be edited to apply to women involved with men, period... But good luck! Good for doing what you needed to do to be true to yourself and live happily...
RCCDMA Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 You seem to be very smart. You analyzed your own problem, came up with a resolution and put it to work. Smart women are in high demand. I hope that you find someone else that is not married and that you just click with. Make yourself smile, tomorrow is a new day. Good luck.
nextel Posted January 22, 2008 Posted January 22, 2008 I posted a thread here asking for advise because i thought i was in love with a MM that i was having a six month affair with. I realized yeaterday that it was not love and instead it was lust. we spent the whole day yesterday together in a hotel room and although it was nice and i enjoyed myself i realized that i was not in love and instead it was lust and when i made that discovery i have felt so good because i had the courage to write him and email breaking things off. during the time in the hotel his wife text him a few times and he text her, she then emailed him and he emailed her back, so thats who he says he was texting and emailing i didnt care to look or ask if i could look. i know now my life will be better since i think i realized his wife loves him and he loves her and i dont want to come in between them. it feels good when you could identify love and lust because it sort of unlocks your heart. they have two small children that i know he loves and according to him they were the only reason he stood in that relationship. i did enjoy the moments we had, and he woke up feelings that i thought i had lost and made feel like a woman again ehich have in a way helped me move on and hopefully find the right person for me since i was just holding on this relationship which by the way made me feel more lonely thatn when i was lone, and for those of you who are not familiar i have lived with someone for ten years, but we are separated just living in the same apartment. i havent loved that man for a couple of years now and have slept in separate rooms for a long time and hopefully he will leave my home really soon so that i can be happy again. i dont believe what i did was wrong it was something that just happened and i learned slot from this experience, something i will carry in my heart forever. FOR THOSE WOMAN INVOLVED WITH A MM: do what ever you have to do to make you happy, but distinguigh the difference between love and lust you live more free and much better and you will have control over that relationship, however if you really do feel you are falling in love think if all you guys get together for is sex and nothing else then its lust because you can not be in love with someone who doesnt spend quality time with you. i was falling in love with him before we started sleeping together since we did spend quality times together at the beach, playing handball, going to the movies ect... but when it became sexual and thats all it was nothing else i realized it would never go anywhere else, it's not worth it. i could have stood around just to have fun, but for what when i am a beautiful woman who can find a single man that can give me the same thing. Glad you recognized it and have saved yourself from whatever would have come down the pipeline. Good luck to you.
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