MikeyMike Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 Hey i never really tried this kind of thing before but i figured i'd give it a shot cause i need some out side opinions. I was dating a girl for 2&1/2 years and everything was fine. We always had fun and never got into a huge fight or anything. Long story short we break up and I've tried to fix things for a while. It didnt work and we always get into fights about staying friends. She calls me to stay friends and i try as hard as i can to stay friends with her but it seems to hurt more. I've told her to leave me alone and she will just keep calling. She tells me everything is great in her life but i honestly dont believe her at times. But then she tells me she misses me and wants me to move back so we can hang out and everything. this is where i get lost with the whole thing. Why tell me your life is great and that you want me to move back to hang out? I know this is kind of long but maybe some one here might have an idea? thanks for reading -Mike
BrianG Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 It seems to me like she was the one that wanted the break-up and she is now reaching out to be friends. In my opinion it is very difficult to be "just friends" after a relationship this long with all the feelings involved. In my experience, one is always left wanting more, hence maybe the reasoning behind the arguments about being friends. You both need a lot of time and space between each other and after a long time maybe a friendship could evolve. You never know, but I am pessimistic with being friends with an ex because it will just end up hurting you too much. You now have to start looking out of yourself and what is best for you. Only you can decide if you want a friendship, but you have to be prepared for the consequences of being her friend (dating others, etc.) I don't think it will work in the end, just my opinion.
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