toomany Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 Hello! First off I am new here, hello everybody, never done this kind of forum before,but man do I need some serious help and advice. I am totally confused on what I should do and I am hoping that some outside advice might help me to clarify some things. Ok soooo heres the situation: First off I am recently divorced I started seeing a wonderful guy shortly afterward. This guy is ALMOST perfect. He treats me like a gal should be treated. He's funny, kind, caring, interesting, keeps me on my toes and cherishes me with all he can. He's got a good job and works hard for everything he has. We both enjoy doing the samethings and have many of the same interests. We communicate well and can talk for hours and hours about many differant subjects. I would trust him with my life and my heart and I care deeply for him. SOOOO whats my dilima you ask??? Well, for the last month I have been chatting with another guy that I had just considered a friend. He lives quite a ways away from me. And the friend chatting has seemed to turn in a different direction. More towards relationship talk. And I find myself more and more thinking of this other guy. I keep thinking if I live in the same city that I would want to seriously date him. Although I have only seen him in person twice. We also enjoy the same things and have the same interests. And the more we talk the more I feel myself pulled toward him. I also find myself caring about him as well. Soooo here is the dilima. How on earth can a person fall for two guys? Both guys are fantastic. Although I know #1 guy alot better and live close by him. I KNOW that we mesh and that we work together. But this other guy keeps drifting back into my mind. AND he lives soo far away and I don't even know how well we would work together. I don't want to hurt either one of them as I care about them both. But I am just sooooo confused on what to do. How do I let one down with out hurting their feelings so badly that I can't remain friends with them? Is this even possible???? HELP!!
ashleigh422 Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 I'm no expert but its common sense that all humans desire what they cannot have. I am not at all saying that you cannot have this man #2.. but he is HUGE challenge compared to guy #1... Honestly, cant tell you what to do.. Its like comparing Apples to Oranges... but do you think if guy #2 was in your town, perhaps, you wouldn't want him so bad? Or do you think if he was in your town you would only want to be with him and forget guy #1? Once you put both guys on an even playing field you will determine which one you really like more..
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