rockdragon20 Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 Haha, what a bad title there... but I'll start where it began, about three years ago my senior year of high school. This is a hecka long story. I met this guy in class, let's call him T. One of the first guys I've ever met who I was certain liked me, and we had a lot of chemistry, he was handsome and we got along pretty well. one of the first things I discovered about him was that he was very irresponsible, in that basic, stupid way that guys can be--being late was a huge issue, for every time we got together to study, and so on, it was pretty lame. I thought we were going to be together eventually--at the end of the semester we made plans to hang out and I gave him my number, and then I didn't hear from him again. I wrote to him a couple of times to try and check up on him. Nine months later, I check my e-mail and there we are, he wrote back to me--apparently he lost my number and never checks his messages. The funny thing was, he used to live about an hour's drive away from me, and two week previous he moved with his father to about a five minute drive away from me. This period of my life was really horrible for me, I was sick constantly and depressed and didn't have anyone around for support. We got together and sort of started dating. I had no idea how to have a relationship, plus the emotional unstability of myself, plus his irresponsibility, we did not last very long. Oh yeah, I have to mention how my mom very much did not like him--she barely was around him, but made it very much known that she did not like him and didn't want me to see him, because she had a bad feeling. I respect my mom alot so this wasn't the greatest situation, but I was also upset as she didn't give him much of a chance. T was really shy, and pretty lame when it came to meeting my parents. He would call me when he came to pick me up and stay in the driveway, not coming to the doorway--I mean, he was 20 at the time, so I expected a little more from, but that's just one of the many stupid guy things he did. Not to mention constantly being late, and one time we were supposed to meet at the movies, he did indeed meet me there, but said to go into the theater (I was with my friends) as his dad was stopping by to drop of money he owed him. Well, T never came into the theater, and I waited until the next day when he called, and that was the last time we talked. One regret I had for the things that I did, was how I didn't try hard enough even though I really liked him, and felt that I bailed when things got just a little rocky. But I was also upset at all the pointlessly stupid things that he did. Fast forward to another nine months later, I had just gotten home from a three month trip to Japan, and heard that T called. He didn't leave a message, though. He called again a month later, and I decided to finally call him back. It was the most unawkward conversation ever, and he asked if I wanted to hang out sometime. I told him he could call me, but wasn't sure if I could hang out with him again. Soon after I got deathly ill again, and I'm still fighting a chronic sinus infection. He left a message on my cell, and I never called him back because I had absolutely no time to think about it with school and work and trying to stay healthy. It's a few months later now, and I am much healthier, but still fighting the infection off and on. I have been thinking so much about relationships, and how for the past three years, I have only been on one date besides T, and came to the reliazation about how I don't try hard enough in my relationships (which is probably why they never even start). I miss T insanely, and whenever I think I'm over him and doing fine, he finds a way back in. Even if I have other crushes/infatuations, nothing ever seems to happen, even if I do try. I e-mailed T to see how he's doing, for the sake of seeing how he's doing, basically. I do want to be with him again, but with the situations in the past, and how my mother feels about him, I don't know if it could work--the problem is, it feels like the right thing, and I think it's possible that I love him. The whole thing is lame and totally weird, and I simply want to know you peoples' thoughts on this. Please ask about anything if I wasn't clear enough... Thanks much.
Author rockdragon20 Posted January 17, 2008 Author Posted January 17, 2008 Come on people, give me somethin' to work with. So, he did e-mail me back, and we are both at the same university now, and said we should get together sometime for some coffee. Would this be a bad idea?
Leia Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 Go have that coffee and catch up with him. I don't know if this is love or not coz I am not living your life and certainly have never been in a situation like this. Explain to him that your sickness made you hold back most of the time and school is more important but if you're well balanced, you can have a boyfriend and school at the same time.
XXkissesXX Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 Hi so I think of course you should see him again, just for old times sake, and also to see if you guys have that same chemistry you described earlier. Things might work out, it sounds like you two take it very very slow, so Im sure you wont make the mistake of being too forward, but you can let him know that you havent forgotten about him!
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