so_sad Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 So as I mentioned in another thread, today has been super tough for me, after a couple of weeks of feeling like I was kind of getting better. Well, I went over to our house (that my ex is still in; I have moved out but all my stuff is still there) to do some stuff. He was not there. I was doing okay...until I found a packet of condoms. And I just lost it. The thought of him being with someone else - more than the thought, the confirmation - made me want to puke. Seriously, my stomach just clenched right up. I started bawling. And then I found the cutest framed picture of the two of us and I smashed in into bits and left it all lying there. Now I feel like an idiot for doing that. He's going to go home to that smashed picture and think I'm a crazy loser who can't get over him. How can he do this?! I can't even bring myself to look at another man and he's out screwing god knows who? I know he's my (recent) ex, but man. I didn't think he would move on this fast.
Confused9 Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 Mine went to another state to work and help pay for the wedding, cheated, broke up with me after I discovered it on his voicemails, treated me like ****, moved out there never to return or so he says, continued being mean and wouldn't talk to me would only text and email me, stopped paying me the money he owes me for the debt we created, treated me awful, blamed me for his cheating, said he never loved me, etc. Now he's with her in another state...won't talk to anyone here and has pretty much vanished. I was with him for 7 years...never saw it coming. He was my world. I thought I was his...I guess I was wrong.
Author so_sad Posted January 16, 2008 Author Posted January 16, 2008 Oh Confused, I know, it sucks so much. I thought we were each others' worlds too. I was wrong. I was actually referring to my own craziness - the picture smashing - and hoping others here could share embarrassing stuff too. I guess it's not that big a deal (I could have set fire to his car or something, ha ha) but I still feel like it was a setback on the road of recovery. And he's going to see it and just know that I am in no way over him. And I had been doing so well with my whole "I'm dignified" act, too. That's shot now.
SmileyFace82 Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 Now i know what i did was a mistake and regret it... this was around 5 months ago... I got drunk one night and bumped into my ex at a club/bar... asked her to give us another chance (2 weeks after we split up)... she told me to leave her alone and said that i wasn't the guy she thought i was... which hurt like mad and as i was drunk i couldn't control my emotions. She went off, danced with a few men... she then went off to another club with a group of men. I called her constantly, left her voice messages etc. (nothing bad...just asking her to pick up or call me back)... She picked up eventually and told me to F*$k off you F*$k.... which hurt like mad...first time she ever swore at me. I then for some reason smashed my phone to pieces as i threw it like a javelin against a concrete wall and also my rather expensive watch handed down to me by my father. I was in pieces at that point and let's just say i was ready to give up completely. Then i bumped into her a couple days later with one of her colleagues (who was apparently a friend who she went on holiday with the week after she split up with me)...who now i saw kissing her as i saw from afar. My heart sank at that point and i was in depression for a few weeks after that, breaking down constantly. They are still a couple now 4-5 months on so good luck to them...and i have moved on as much as i can... but those few days will live with me for still a while yet. That was gutting... but more importantly....MY PHONE AND MY WATCH!! haha!! Lost all my contacts, pictures, sentimental value of my watch etc. That was pretty embarassing.
Confused9 Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 oh haha. sorry. I haven't really don't anything too crazy. When he was home visiting in October before I knew about her or at least the extent of their relationship I chased after him and climbed in the truck with him and wouldn't get out until he talked to me...he screamed at me to get out and I pleaded for him to talk to me. It was pretty lame. But, I was so confused. I had no idea what the h*ll was going on with him or us. Later we talked and things seemed better. I got the whole I just need to work things out in my head speech...then he went back to his mean ways. So..I chased after a man that wanted nothing to do with me and believed he still cared about me. That;s silly! I don't think what you did is that bad...could have been a lot worse (the car being on fire is a fine example of that hehe)
Author so_sad Posted January 16, 2008 Author Posted January 16, 2008 Yes, this is what I was after...smashed phones and jumping into a truck. Neither of those seem unreasonable to me, but as I said I seem to have lost all dignity today. I had been wondering lately if I was really progressing or if I was just bottling up all the anger and sadness. I think I know the answer now.
D-Lish Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 ahhhh- that's nothing. I got a phone call from my Husband's mistress that she was pregnant with his love child.... and when he came home, he went into the cellar to put his hockey equipment away and I pelted him with pots, pans, stiletto's and a vaccum cleaner as he tried to come back up the stairs. Then I locked him in the basement and then took off and left him there for many, many hours. No windows down there- no way out. I just don't feel guilty about that though.
Citizen Erased Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 ahhhh- that's nothing. I got a phone call from my Husband's mistress that she was pregnant with his love child.... and when he came home, he went into the cellar to put his hockey equipment away and I pelted him with pots, pans, stiletto's and a vaccum cleaner as he tried to come back up the stairs. Then I locked him in the basement and then took off and left him there for many, many hours. No windows down there- no way out. I just don't feel guilty about that though. I'm sorry, it obviously wasn't very funny at the time, but damn you taught him a lesson
D-Lish Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 I'm sorry, it obviously wasn't very funny at the time, but damn you taught him a lesson It is def funny now. I managed to get him with a stilletto in the noggin.
Citizen Erased Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 It is def funny now. I managed to get him with a stilletto in the noggin. My favourite part is the locking him down there for a few hours. Kinda like he was sent to the corner for being a naughty child
cracked1 Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 ahhhh- that's nothing. I got a phone call from my Husband's mistress that she was pregnant with his love child.... and when he came home, he went into the cellar to put his hockey equipment away and I pelted him with pots, pans, stiletto's and a vaccum cleaner as he tried to come back up the stairs. Then I locked him in the basement and then took off and left him there for many, many hours. No windows down there- no way out. I just don't feel guilty about that though. HAHA! My mother would be proud! If i become single i'll look you up.
sedgwick Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 I threw a boyfriend's laptop charger off my terrace one time. Like, off the terrace and into the dumpster.
lbj123 Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 D-Lish - AMAZING!! I am sitting here hysterically laughing, I love it! Here's a good one...a friend of mine had been in a relationship with a guy for 3 years. While he was away for a two week business trip she had the keys to his apartment and stopped by to pick up a shirt she had left there that she wanted to wear out that night. When she walked in there was a girl laying in his bed. Turns out he had a full blown second girlfriend, and the girlfriend didn't know about her either. He had told the other girl that she could stay at his apt while he was away, not thinking my friend would stop by. The two of them covered his entire floor with honey, sugar and maple syrup, and left all of the windows open. They hung sticky fly paper on the walls. When he returned two weeks later, his apt was covered in flies, cockroaches, rats, and even a few pigeons! The two girls are still in touch almost two years later, and the guy had to have his floors ripped out and redone. He couldn't get rid of the cockroaches and rats for months!
CalamitousJane Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 An ex from a very long time ago asked me to bring him a book, and when I picked it up a folded piece of paper dropped out. Turned out it was a list of women's names. I recognized them as his former lovers, in chronological order. My name was third from the last, before two women that I thought were acquaintances of his. I went into the kitchen, shaking with anger, list in hand. I grabbed the full mug of beer out of his hand and threw it at his head full force, without saying a word. Unfortunately it didn't break and leave a scar, but it did make a nasty lump.
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