mineymoe Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 I have been seeing my guy for three years...last spring we finally told each other we loved each other and things have all in all been fine. My guy is divorced the day i met him he told me he was moving back in, you got it, for the kids... we didn't see each other again for a few months but i really did fall in love at first sight and sure enough our paths crossed again anyway i can relate i let my ex live with me for a few years and it was easier on the kids anyway...not unhappy with our situation but over the past few weeks he has been acting strange. Instead of seeing him 2/3 times a week we see each other all the time. he has been calling out of work, etc and has been here almost everyday. I saw him today for hours and not even 10 minutes after i left he called me to come back . I got home and he called me to try to see if we could get together tonight if i'd go to a work meeting he has tonight (i wish I could!!). Its like he just wants me there. where he is. I think its great but when he is with me he hasn't said anything about his feelings changing or anything he is not a big talker about his feelings. he says i am his best friend and that i know him and more about him then anyone ever has. When i told him i couldn't see him tonight he wanted to know if i'd bring him some of the soup i was making today for him tomorrow....but when i commented on all the time we have been spending lately he didn't really say anything just went about defragging my hard drive and turning on my radiators and then we slept....he just asked me if i liked it.....anyway anyone have any insight? i've never really been great at relationships esp not with people i really care about...but is he getting more serious? i mean what happens next?
RCCDMA Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 It seems to me like he is trying to get closer to you. If I understood this correctly he is still living with his ex for the kids sake. Maybe he feels the kids understand that their parents are finished and he is ready to move on. Sounds to me like he is missing something that you are giving him. I bet if you pressed a little (very little) then you would find out from him what he is feeling.
Author mineymoe Posted January 16, 2008 Author Posted January 16, 2008 Thanks for your nice, sane response... i haven't posted here in awhile and i was a little leery.... the situation with his ex and kids is a real mess...about a month ago he started to see a psychiatrist...he told him about us and i don't know maybe it has something to do with that...the dr did not condemn him for what we are doing. i don't really want to push him and i really don't know what comes next i don't see how we can drop back to how things were but i don't see how we can go much further either like this...
RCCDMA Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 I have been accused of not sharing my feelings in the past and it seems that the only way that I would was to have them pulled out with wild horses and logging chains. Men are different creatures and I think in general need a little coaxing to get them to open up. Right now I am seeing a whole bunch of things more clearly b/c I am in the middle of a mess.
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