adiorable143 Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 Hello everyone! Ok so here is my dilemma...I was dating my ex boyfriend for almost 2 yrs before i called it off in late august. I ended it because he was very jealous and a bit controlling. In the beginning i thought that we would be broken up for a couple of days or 2 weeks AT MOST. We had broken up before that is why i didnt think it would turn out like this. Now it has been 4 months since the breakup and we had no contact whatsoever, UNTIL New Years Eve. When we broke up I was calling him and texting him constantly until i realized that he didnt want to talk to me. I was calling him to reconcile with him and he kept on telling me that he needs time to think about it. After 2 weeks I finally gave up, and went into NC mode for the next 4 months, totally disapperaing from him...and breaking off all means of communications with him. Recently, My ex bf sent me a text saying happy nye, and that was all. To be nice, I replied back saying happy nye, how have u been. I never got a response back from him and it has been 2 weeks since that text. NOW, his bday is coming up soon and i wanted to take him out for dinner, but i dont know if that is a good idea. When we were together we use to have alot of fun and I enjoyed his company, regardless of his jealousy issue. I was talking to one of my close friends about the text issue, and she told me that he didnt respond back to you because he felt like he's the one who took the first step of trying to communicate, so he is mad bcus of that....which i dont understand. My question is should i just send him a text on his bday or should i make an attempt to try to get him to come out for dinner. I really do miss him, but i am kind of scared to try to talk to him bcus i would be mad if he told me he has a gf or something in that nature. And also im not sure if he still lives in my town, bcus i remember him saying that he was going to transfer school in a diff state. I feel terrible that we ended things the way we did, and it was kind of petty if you ask me. I dont want us to be enemies, so i want to try to calm things down cus i do want him in my life (friend or bf) Im so confused.
sedgwick Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 If someone broke up with me thinking they'd get me back in two weeks, I'd be done with them. Why not just try to work on your issues? I'd say he's taken you at your word and moved on, and, as you're the one who dumped him, you should let him.
Author adiorable143 Posted January 15, 2008 Author Posted January 15, 2008 (edited) Why would i have issues? I did it for a reason. Overall the breakup was petty, and i feel as if it could've been worked out. The reason why i broke things off with him was his lack of self confidence...which lead to him being OVERLY jealous and a bit controlling towards me. My question is for his bday, should i just text him happy bday, or should i try to take him out to dinner and calm the tension between us. Edited January 15, 2008 by adiorable143 missed something
madgun68 Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 Why wait for his birthday? If you would like him in your life to any extent, then just give him a call. See how things go. Keep it light and brief.. maybe suggest catching up over coffee or something. If that goes well, then suggest the birthday dinner if that is still something you want to do. It's understandable to be scared of what you may find out, but don't you think that finding out is better than what's going on right now?
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