miami45uconn Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 My girlfriend and I broke up a month and half ago from 2.5 years. She was in love with me for every day it seemed. We didnt have the best relationship but we both worked to make it work. All of a sudden she anted to break up and it crushed me. She built me up so high then tore me down so fast. For the first 2 weeks i did call alot and bother her which i guess pushed her away. I didnt know who else to talk to because for 2 years she was the ONLY one who cold fix any problem of mine. Since then she has cut off all communication. Her friends dont talk to me and i think she changed her number. Before we broke up she cried and couldnt see me not being her friend and being in her life. And said she didnt want this to end with us hating each other. I just ant my friend back too. If she doesnt love me then fine. But why cant she talk to me??? If she doesnt love me and doesnt want me whats it hurt her to talk to me? Yeah sometimes i just want to vent my frustrations about us and sometimes about life in general. Why cant she talk to me?
Jasmine777 Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 I would say to move on, once you move on she may try and come back. I have wondered if that will happen in my situation too. Once you stay away that is when the person that left comes back or at least tries to say hi and see how you are doing. It sounds like since she changed her number, she might feel bothered so don't contact her ever again now and see what happens.
Confused9 Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 I don't think this is anything that a girl or guy could answer better for you. It's seems like she's moved on. Perhaps she met someone else? I'm not sure but when my x started acting like that...he was already with someone else. We were together for 7 years and planning on getting married so you can imagine my shock. I don't know if it's guilt or carelesness or what that stops them from talking to us. But, I want to believe it's guilt...so I am going to go with that. Just take care of yourself. Try and move on. That's the only thing you can do. I know how painful it is...trust me.
virtucon Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 (edited) I agree with C, this is not anything a girl or guy could answer better. I'd say in your situation that it was very painful for her to break up with you. She probably cares for you deeply after 2.5 years, but isn't in love with you. When you called her a lot, it probably reminded her of the painful thing she did to you and it isn't allowing her to heal from it. I'd say give it a few weeks of not being in the picture of her or her friends and then only apologize for the drama of the first 2 weeks. Absolutely nothing else. I suggest doing this in the written form, so you don't say anything else in the moment. Then move on. If she feels that there will be no drama, she may contact you and reestablish a friendship. People want to be friends because they enjoy each others company, not because they want drama. Oh my god, I sound like a quack therapist. Edited January 16, 2008 by virtucon
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