samsungxoxo Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 Ok so besides his speech delay problem (he mainly communicates using the only few words he knows, in gestures or when he gets angry but doesn't really talk). Is it normal for a 5 year old (he'll turn 6 on may) to be kicking/hitting or screaming a lot. It's almost always me he vents out on.
whichwayisup Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 Has your mother brought him to the dr for a physical? Just to rule out incase it's something serious. Your home life seems to be filled with negative energy at home so there's a good chance your brother is picking up on that and reacting. Any reaction, good or bad is attention. Does he have timeouts? Or does he just get yelled at? Or even smacked? All this has a play into why he is acting the way he is. Is he loved, cuddled and complimented? Does he feel safe and secure in the home?
Author samsungxoxo Posted January 15, 2008 Author Posted January 15, 2008 LOL, yea right he's as stubborn as heck. I did try time-out some point and it never worked on him (I figure why try on a kid with speech delay that doesn't understand the meaning of it). Yet when he would go to school, he would be a obediant child and no complains from teachers whatsoever. As for a dr., his brain is normal, there's nothing wrong with it, his vision is well and so is his hearing. He was only rule out as having speech delay and no autism.
quankanne Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 sounds like he's a good kid at school because he understands that it's the way to get attention, much like pitching hissy fits at home will merit attention, even if it is negative attention. he's old enough to understand "homey don't play that," and you can try doing reinforcement excercises with him (Parents Anonymous is great about ideas on rearing kids) so that he understands negative behavior is not acceptable.
whichwayisup Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 Well, then he is either testing everyone at home and winning with his stubborness, or he is unhappy and acting out. Instead of timeouts, he needs to understand consquences. Like, he bites or hits - NO TV, NO video games for two days and he has to sit in his room. No playing outside with friends after school. Kids understand consquences, especially if they lose something they enjoy (TV watching and playing on the computer). Another thing, you are his sister and punishments really should be handed out by your parents. Sorry, but I seem to remember you DO have quite a temper, so he could be copying you as well...
PandorasBox Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 He needs to be seen by a doctor to determine what is going on. Could be a number of things. If its attention, then he feels he is not getting it or maybe getting the wrong kind so he acts out. Perhaps he is acting out what he has seen/heard or there may be another cause that needs to be addressed.
Krytie TV Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 In many cases, OP, for kids in his situation (I have little to go on), it is typical that he would be doing this at his age. Especially given he has speech delays and cannot communicate his needs. Children in this situation often learn that tantruming is one tested method of getting what they want, as no one will give it to them otherwise because they can't express they're after. One of the first step in understanding difficult behavior in children is to understand what it is getting them, as we all use behavior for a purpose. After figuring out what they are receiving from it, the next step is to teach them another way to get that thing... more appropriate ways, while making sure that the problem behavior is no longer providing them that.
mental_traveller Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Lock him in a closet for 24 hours each time he freaks out on you. He'll stop fairly soon.
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