confused_days Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 I'm in my senior years of high school at the moment. I've always had a lot of male friends that i can relate to extremely easily and be very friendly to. However, after a whole two years of going out to movies, lunch etc with my friends, who all have a lot of female friends they bring along (all from the same peer group), i find it depressing that so far, i'm still unable to make friends with any girls. I just can't talk naturally to a girl, especially to ones i find attractive. Its like i have to figure out things to say, which usually doesn't come out right cuz its just not natural. So I've had 0 close female friends who i can talk to a lot. I really just need tips on how to approach girls in a FRIENDLY manner and just talk. I struggle to find any common interests, and just can't talk to a girl for more than 1 minute. This used to never be a problem for me in primary , where i made a lot of female friends. Just something i have lost through growing up and peer pressure. I realise that since i moved into my new school (2 years ago), ive had MAJOR insecurities and MAJOR problems to do with self consciousness.
TheDC Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 Group projects and study sessions are a great way to just hang with women. If you are just talking about school work then you can just chit chat about life in general and just get to know them without having to worry about picking them up or having to impress them. School is a big part of your life right now it is the one subject that you instantly have in common with girls. When you are talking with the guys you are probably shooting the **** about what you saw on campus or what some teacher did or said or an assignment you have in common. You can talk to women about the same sort of stuff. The first thing you have to do is push the thought out of your mind of "wow she's so hot" and just look at her like another person. Then you can be relaxed and just talk to whoever. Women really cue off of someone who is confident and sure of themselves. Just talk to them like normal, just say something like "hey how was class" or "how's your project going" or something like that, just ask questions and let them do a lot of the talking. Oh and don't just focus on one girl right away. Talk to all of them. Just put yourself out there you'll discover the ones that are interested and want to talk etc...
Recommended Posts