wizzlebee Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 I dont know if im posting this in the right forum but would like your advice/views of my issue My bf and i are going on holiday to Australia in June. I was super excited about the trip until i found out that some ppl we are going to visit is his ex's sister.She emailed him inviting him to stay over a few nights( hence i say him cause no where in the email does it mention me the gf staying over too). not that i want too.I dont know her nor her husband so i dont know how they will treat me. I know i'll be uncomfortable. My bf still did not tell me these ppl are his ex's family. I found out a different way and im not going to tell him i know, i want him to tell me on his own. If its no big deal , why hasnt he told me? This has put a big damper on my excitement and i dont feel like going. i feel like such a ungrateful brat right now cause my bf is paying for the holiday for the both of us and all i can think about this problem and how angry i a
Lishy Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 Maybe you should just just tell him you know and ask about it! If you dont mention it and he still does not then you will tie yourself in knots and get in a real state over it.
sally4sara Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 That is so weird that he hasn't told you who they are to him! What happens if you go through the whole trip and he never says anything about it?
Author wizzlebee Posted January 15, 2008 Author Posted January 15, 2008 Exactly ...But i had this idea. If he doesnt tell me before we go im NOT going to tell him i know. Instead i'll put on my acting skills and when i get there pretend i do not know that they are his ex's family ,be super nice,super friendly and super open! and talk "openly" to them about how wonderful our relationship is is now after his crazy ex gf left us alone. And how his crazy ex gf tried to break us up in the beginning of our relationship.This ofcourse will embarrass him bcause i'll be talking about their sister but thats what you get when you not honest with me!
Lishy Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 And you think that is a good idea whilst you are thousands of miles from home?
a4a Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 Did you stop to think that he might not have any intentions of staying at ex family home? He might just be putting on a polite act for them. Or he is scared to tell you about this knowing how you felt about his meddling ex. Bring it up..... then decide to go or not to go.
lovesparis Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 there is no sense in playing games in a relationship. just be honest that you know.
rosalie Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 there is no sense in playing games in a relationship. just be honest that you know. Yep, agree. Don't let it spoil your trip either, talk about it beforehand - there's no problem in asking who these people you are supposed to stay with are and how he knows them? Remember though the ex won't be there and you will be spending time in a local's home - always the best way to travel. I think you should talk about it but also be the bigger person and show you aren't worried about it. He's with you and going to Australia with you and not her. If all else fails, I'm an Aussie and you can come and stay with me
Author wizzlebee Posted January 16, 2008 Author Posted January 16, 2008 Thanks Rosalie, Thank you everyone for your advice, and you guys are all right. I was mad when i wrote that last post. I probably woudnt be able to bad mouth his ex to her sister anyways.. Well last night me and the bf was talking on the phone and he came out with it himself. And i told him what if they treat me rudely and make me feel uncomfortable. He said they not like that and wouldnt take me there if he thought they were nasty ppl. Apparently his ex sister told him to break up with her cause he deserves someone better and his wasting his time on her. SO we'll see. Also he said that he's gonna get an international drivers license permit so that we can drive to visit them and if at any time they make me uncomfortable we'll leave immediately.But he dont think they will.
Islander Posted January 21, 2008 Posted January 21, 2008 I think the easiest thing to do would be to ask him about who your staying with. How you know them. Who they are, what they do. Get really involved on who they are. He maybe not telling you because i would upset you but then again it seems it has a bit. Honesty is the best approach i think.
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