imstuckinatree3 Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 So ive been dating this girl off and on for several months, we were friends for years before this, nothing serious, but i do like her as much more than a friend. So after stoping for a few weeks we went out again and later that night i sent her a message asking if we were considering us as being back together... and this is what i got.... ok, here's the thing....i think you are a great guy and it would be on my list of "top ten most stupid moves by (her name)" to say that we are not...however...i know that i am not over (her ex)...and i dont know when i ever will be...so it would also be on that top ten list for me to say yes and risk you getting hurt which is almost inevadable with me no where near being over (her ex)...so as you can see...i'm a little bit lost..... so what am i supposed to make of this. When ever we go out we have a great time and even when we're just bummin it out we still get along great and have a lot of fun.....this message just made me start to wonder..
Lucasarts Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 shes just trying to say that she doesnt want to be with you because shes still in "love" with her ex (and hoping that he comes back and takes her in her arms and whisks her away to some exotic fairytale land). Honestly, its a waste of time to try anything beyond being friends right now, and thats what she is trying to say to you as well (in a polite and nice way...sorta). If you really do have strong feelings for her, then ride the wave of friendship and be there for her, but i wouldnt suggest really moving in on her (because she is in no state for it, and it'll only end in disaster). I'd focus on other girls too, because i think you're becoming too attached to her (friends for years and on and off dating?) now.
Krytie TV Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 It means you are in a complete mess and would only be setting yourself up for being walked on if you try to pursue a romantic relationship. Some would say back off completely and make her miss you so she realizes how silly she's being by staying hung up on her ex.
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