nitabean Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 Hey everyone, happy belated holidays...lol. I am in a bit of a state of confusion and I cant figure out if there is fault or if I am just looking for fault. I met this guy through a mutual friend the Thursday before Christmas. I wasnt instantly attracted to him but as we talked he became so much more attractive to me. He is very funny and was throwing some comments my way that at first kinda caught me off guard. But I held my own and didnt fall into the trap of the one night stand...lol. (He later told me he was testing to see if I was that type of girl and I passed...lol) The next day I had to go shopping and he went with me, we ended up spending the entire day together and we went on a double date that night. The following day he came over and we were talking and he told me that he liked me a lot and that he had a FWB situation that he needed to call off. I offered to back away and told him I wouldnt share and he agreed. We talked and saw each other many more times during the next week, I went out with him to his usual Wednesday and Thursday hangouts and I am a big hit with his friends. On New Years eve he told me that the FWB situation was over and we could start moving forward with us. The following week we both got sick, either of us barely went to work much less talked to each other. I got a few text messages and that was about it which is understandable too. He asked me to come over Thursday and we just hung out, talked and watched movies, Saturday I went with him to a get together at his sisters house and talked to him Sunday and a little bit today. The only thing that is bothering me is even though when I am with him I can tell he wants to be there, he doesnt seem to put much effort into seeing me. When he dropped me off on Saturday he said he was coming by Sunday when I got off work. He got off at 430 and when I talked to him at 7pm he still hadnt showered or eaten so he didnt come over. Today he has a meeting to go to for a car club, the guy that goes with him lives 2 blocks away and he didnt even stop by to say Hi. BUT....again....when I am with him everything seems fine, he doesnt push me away....always finds a way to make me laugh, shows affection, etc. I cant figure out if I need to put my guard up or if I am just looking for fault. I will be honest that I have not been treated very well in the past so I am well aware that I might be "makin **** up" but at the same time I really like this guy and I want him to know it. I have a hard time with that fine line between letting someone know your interested w/o seeming needy. I like it when he sends me a "good morning" text message just because BUT I dont want to ask for it either. Any advice, words or encouragement, etc that anyone can offer would help.
tanbark813 Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 (He later told me he was testing to see if I was that type of girl and I passed...lol) Well that was a load of shyt but he backpedaled nicely. he doesnt seem to put much effort into seeing me. I don't get this part. It sounds like you two have spent a good deal of time together. Who usually invites whom? Today he has a meeting to go to for a car club, the guy that goes with him lives 2 blocks away and he didnt even stop by to say Hi. FWIW, I wouldn't show up unannounced to a girl's place who I just started seeing either. I don't know. I don't really see any red flags here.
Author nitabean Posted January 15, 2008 Author Posted January 15, 2008 Thanks tanbark for a slight bit or humor...lol. I thought it might have been a back pedal too but it was nice to hear. He usually invites me places, he invited me to go to his hang outs and meet his friends and then to his sisters house. I invited him to my house once and too the movies on Christmas and he showed both times. I guess your score if for "looking for fault"...point taken..lol.
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