miami45uconn Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 I posted before but its been about two months after my girlfriend broke up with me and I have tried everything to stop this feeling. She told me for 2 years how much she loved me and wanted to be with me and saw us and a future as being a real possibility. I got on board because i loved her i just was young and she made me believe we had something special. In september of last year she wanted a break. I was hurt and didnt know what to do. We kind of tlaked during the few day break and she came back saying she couldnt live without me. Then this thanksgiving she wanted a break and she she doesnt want me to wait for her. I took that as her saying im probobly going to break up with you i just want you to move on so i dont look like the bad guy when i break your heart. I told her forget that just break up with me. I have never had a broken heart before so i was unsure what to do. I dont have many good friends who will actually be there for me and listen to me. She was my best friend and was the only person i could always go to when i had a real problem. And since she just left my world i really had no one and still dont have many people to turn to. I did some dumb things by calling her alot within the first week. Then after that i just had a few break downs where i called her into the night praying shed answer. yes that was dumb but i didnt know what to do. And just a note it bothers me she makes me out to be the worst guy on earth when i broke up with her a few times because we werent working out and she came to my house opened my garage withe the code and di alot of things to push me away like i did to her and then she makes me look like the crazy one, we both did crazy things when in love. The point is she blocked off all communication I guess which is good for me in the long run but makes me feel terrible currently. She cried before we broke up and said she didnt want me completley out of her life but now she is cruel to me and has even basically stolen some of my friends. I dont know how to stop loving someone. Im afraid i will never be able to deny her if she wants me back. I dont sleep, i get these stupid thoughts in my had of if she wanted me back if she realized she loved me and have all those dreams which are good but then yo have to wake up to reality. TELL ME WHAT TO DO. Everyday is a struggle to get out of bed. Shes so cold and i cant even remember what her voice sounds like, but i still love her the same? why do i? how long will it take for love to fade? what if this love i had was real will that take longer? anyone with experience give me a clue something that can get me back on my feet
virtucon Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 I feel your pain. I only went out with my girl for 3 months before she broke up with me, but love is love. What I have found that helps a bit is a journal. When I can't sleep or feel like *****, I find that writing out my feelings helps, plus it helps avoiding saying something stupid or hurtful to your ex. It's still a struggle for me and I miss not just her, but us.
Lee725 Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 TELL ME WHAT TO DO. Everyday is a struggle to get out of bed. Shes so cold and i cant even remember what her voice sounds like, but i still love her the same? why do i? how long will it take for love to fade? what if this love i had was real will that take longer? anyone with experience give me a clue something that can get me back on my feet I cant tell you exactly what to do, but trying some of these things can help. Trying to keep busy helps - even tho i know you don't feel like doing anything. Keeping a journal does help - it has allowed me to let out a lot over the years without fear of judgment. expanding your circle of friends - try to get out and about, meeting other people can help to take your mind off it. Join a club - be it from fishing to a book club, interaction with similar minded people will help. Don't isolate yourself - this leads to more & more unwanted thoughts and urges (such as contact) Exercise - (i know you probably don't feel like it), but some people swear by it. The amount of time it will take to heal from this will be Dependant on you and your personality. No-one can give you an exact amount of time. I have recovered from long term relationships quickly and suffered extended pain from short ones, you will start to feel better, so please don't think that is is a darkness you will be in forever. Hope you feel better soon.
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