CaliGuy Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 This post is so good for me... Calli-guy, I really appreciate another man's perspective on this. And everyone else's too. Keep 'em coming. I need the help! Over the years, I have tried my damnedest to get over him. I've tried to forget, I've tried to trick myself, I've tried to get mad at him... as well as many more things that I can't remember right now. Do you really think I WANT to feel this way about him?! No way. I feel like a psychotic, immature, ranting lunatic! This whole thing makes me feel and act crazy! I feel like one of those little girls that no one ever wants to be and never likes. I think about how I feel, and about how there is no way this can be one-sided! How could it be?! And then I think... If I am this miserable, isn't he?! And then I think about how I have coped over the years, and that is not fair to anyone.... Not me, him, my kids or my husband. I have let myself go down-hill, I have lost all motivation, I have played a mind game with myself meanwhile hurting everyone around me. And in the long run... for what?! I feel like if I can just TALK to him, one more time... either to have him tell me to get lost, or whatever... Is that so bad?! Something tells me he pretty much told you that by pursing another relationship. What more do you need to know? Have you talked to a Counselor? I would highly recommend it. Not because I think you're crazy, but simply need to hear it from a neutral party and gain information on how to deal with this emotions. The old saying goes "If you are not in control of your emotions, your emotions are in control of you." Cheers.
amaysngrace Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 Have you talked to a Counselor? I would highly recommend it. I second that. You need a dose of reality. You made choices in your life. Now you need to live with them by taking responsibility for them. There are no do-overs. Lose that thought. You've had many chances to make it work with this guy. It didn't. Life moves forward. You are behaving like a crazed toddler who didn't get their way. And you're being quite selfish I might add. Especially to those who love you. They need you at your best. I don't know you but I know this cannot be you at your best. This is one of those times you look back on a year or two later asking yourself "What was I thinking?"
amaysngrace Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 Yes, it goes against everything I stand for but infidelity is one of two reasons God allows for divorce. Just curious...what's the other?
serendip Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 Just curious...what's the other? Wouldn't the other be spousal abuse
amaysngrace Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 Wouldn't the other be spousal abuse If that's true then I'm still cool with God. That's nice to know.
serendip Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 If that's true then I'm still cool with God. That's nice to know. God and I don't talk anymore...he won't return my calls
CaliGuy Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 Wouldn't the other be spousal abuse What is written in the Bible states that if a non-believing spouse chooses to walk away from the marriage, let them. That said, I think an abusive spouse would fall under the "non believer" clause, because there's no way a believing spouse, truly a believer, would abuse their significant other.
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