empress Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 what is denial? have anybody going through this stage or mind during the process of getting over someone? how do you do it? mind to share expereince?
ElvenPriestess Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 Denial about what exactly? The end of a relationship? The denial of someone being out of your life now? What exactly are you referencing to?
BrownBear Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 (edited) Hey there Empress, Hope you are doing AOK. Denial is a basic human defense mechanism in which a person is faced with a fact that is too painful to accept and rejects it instead, insisting that it is not true despite what may be overwhelming evidence. Most people employ denial at some stage in their lives when coping with stressful situations. I myself have recentley experienced feelings of denial. Three months ago the love of my life walked away from our relationship (28th October). She was no longer in love with me. I did'nt see it coming. I truly thought this girl was my Lobster Lobsters mate for life -according to Phoebe from friends. Anyhoot back to denial - It's one of the 5 stages of grief alongside anger, bargaining, depression and finally acceptance. I believe I've passed through this stage of grief. The last time I contacted my ex (19th December) I told her that I was going to fight for this relationship, that I would'nt give up. She replied by telling me not to bother and that she was happier without me. This as you can imagine hurt a hell of alot, however after nearly 2 months of being in a state of limbo thinking I could rectify the situatiuon, I finally got a definite answer and after a moment of clarity I realised that I was fighting in a war that had been lost along time ago. I was no longer living in hope, I could no longer deny the facts! If your ex has'nt laid their cards down on the table , demand that they do, pester them for answers. Hope feeds denial Edited January 14, 2008 by BrownBear
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