tokool2 Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 ive been seeing this girl since the holidays. we been having a great time togther, and we're kinda close as friends but there is something more going on between us. anyway after the holidays we talked on the phone a few times and it was last week sunday i went to her house and we hungout for awhile. the next day i text her asking how she was doing and she responded. the next day she called and we talked a bit. she asked me if i wanted to get together and study and i told her that i was busy fridaynight, but free on saturday and sunday. she told me she was busy on sat and sunday so i told her to call me when things ligthin up. she asked me what i was doing on friday and i told her i was going to a show. she asked what band and i told her and she was like"oh i like that band a lot, thanks for letting me know, i think ill go" the thing is i was going with a female friend who asked me, and i even told her that on the phone, and im strictly just friends with the other girl. anywho i was at the show and i ran into the girl ive been seeing. we talked some and were being kinda of goofy and we introduced each other to our friends. after that she told me she was going to be in a certain area of the venue and i said cool. the thing is i didnt go hangout with her for several reasons. one i didnt just want to leave the one friend hanging as i would have been flirting and stuff like that. two the place was f*ing crowded and i didnt want to walk around. three, i felt as though ive been giving this girl too much attention, and i needed to back off. i want the upper hand on things. the problem is i felt bad doing this because im normally a nice guy. problem with that, everytime i gave into every girls need and want they end up dumping me. so i held my ground, but still feel uneasy about this. please tell me what you think. oh yeah i accidently missed her text the day before the show, and never responded but only because i knew she was going to the show so i figured i would talk to her there.
Winfield Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 So... She knew that you were going to the gig... She knew who you were going with (even though it was none of her business)... She met you at the gig, and told you where she'd be later on... But...you were with a friend. Why feel bad? Aren't you allowed some time with your friends because of her? You made arrangements with your friend, so it was only right you honour them as opposed to the girl who turned up at the last minute... You even told her when you'd be free, so you're not exactly avoiding her, are you? If she gets all funny about the night at the gig, it's probably best you know now as it'll save you wondering how she'll react if a similar scenario occurs in the future. Has she contacted you (or have you contacted her) since?
Author tokool2 Posted January 14, 2008 Author Posted January 14, 2008 i text her today saying it was nice seeing her at the show, and that it sucked that i didnt get to talk to her as much (but things were what they were and i wasnt going to ditch a friend/ walk around in that crowed) i also text her good luck at her show for the next day(she perfoms as well) if she doesnt text back thats cool, i deserve it because i didnt text her back when she had text me, although i tryed to tell her that i was busy and wasnt feeling good, thats why i missed it. and this is true. in away i hope shes not pissed. if she is the only thing we can do is talk, but im not going to be the one to call because i feel i didnt do anything wrong.
torranceshipman Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 Just dont pull the 'upper hand' move and try to act cool...the attention makes her feel good and it sounds like she likes you, but she doesnt know you well yet, so might just think you're a flaky guy if you act distant. If you like the girl, let her know! If girls have messed you about in the past thats their loss, don't punish this girl for their stupid behaviour! I don't think you did anything bad at the concert by the way... Good luck!
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