KingR Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 I met a nice looking girl at the pub in the middle of December and she was the one who approached me. She asked how she could get in touch with me and we had a drink together and I gave her my business card. Anyhow, we got together about a week later and had a great time and went out with a bunch of her friends from work. We ended up back at my place and just made out for a couple of hours on my couch. We went out a couple of more times and she came over for Christmas eve and we watched movies for a couple of hours and again made out, but no sex. She called when she got home and we talked for a couple of hours. We texted each other back and forth for a few days later. This is where she flips out. She sent a text asking me to join her at a pub down the street. I replied "sorry dear, I have plans for the guys tonight". So she replies "Ouch!! I see how important I am". I didn't reply as I had friends over at the time. While we were out, she sent about 5 texts to which I didn't reply. Finally, she sends one that says "Let me know when you're free". I was like WTF is she sending so many? I went out for a smoke and decided to call her to see why so many texts. She flips on me and said she couldn't take it anymore and that I'm some sort of player. She says we shouldn't see each anymore, so I just agreed with her calmly and hung up the phone to go back to my friends as I was getting ticked off with her by this point. She sends a txt about 5 mins later saying "Sorry too many headaches, if I could grab my stuff Tomorrow I would be thankful" I did not reply to this. I did not call her for a week, no texts and neither any contact from her for a week. I sent her a text after the week saying "you can either pick up your stuff from the front desk of my building or you can wait until I get back from vacation next week" To which she replies back within 2 minutes "Hey there!!!! I'd rather wait until you get back but either way is good!!! Happy New Year!!!" She sounded rather happy to hear from me. I told her I would get in touch with her when I got back and then she replies back "Sounds good!! Enjoy your trip!!!" I contact her about four days ago and no response....WTF is up with these girls who flip out like this back and forth? I'm going to NEXT her anyway, but and insight would be great. Cheers
whichwayisup Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 She's insecure. Or she just thought you'd want to spend every single waking moment with her. Either way, she seems needy and dramatic. If you DO like her, then send her an email and tell her what's on your mind. If you don't think she's worth it, then end it completley.
Kamille Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 She's insecure. Or she just thought you'd want to spend every single waking moment with her. Either way, she seems needy and dramatic. If you DO like her, then send her an email and tell her what's on your mind. If you don't think she's worth it, then end it completley. Oh no! It sounds like she's a 'he's just not that into you' casualty! Women are being fed a bunch of lines right now about how men who are into them are supposed to behave - it's the biggest load of crock, but I think the reasoning goes: if he's into you he will drop everything just to be with you because he will want to spend every waking minute of his time with you'. But seriously, she sounds insecure. Like WWIU said, if and only if you think there is something there, you might try telling her your side of things. If not, why not arrange to have the stuff sent to her?
TigerCub Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 I think its silly that she was expecting you to spend all your free time with her. It's best to just end it because things will only get more dramatic later. As for her change in moods, I suspect that she realized that she came off as too needy/clingy and decided to be more carefree and happy the next time you spoke to her.
johan Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 Too bad she has no perspective. She was thinking of you as her boyfriend already. She didn't know what to make of it when you weren't quite there. Otherwise, maybe she was someone worth knowing. One thing I can say for your behavior though is, seeing the amount of involvement she was showing, you didn't explain yourself to her very well. You just ignored her and let her imagination run wild. You might have been able to provide the perspective she needed to calm down and handle things better. If you were interested in something more long-term with her anyway. I wouldn't recommend giving my point of view a lot of credence though, because I can't communicate with women no matter how many or few problems they have.
Author KingR Posted January 14, 2008 Author Posted January 14, 2008 I actually do like her....she just responded actually saying "Sounds great!!!" She's very stubborn and I realize she's testing me non stop. I think she may have been drunk at the time of the flip out and embarassed about it. I won't tolerate this kind of stuff from her though as my life doesn't revolve around her at the moment until she earns that. She needs to understand that I will most certainly not give up the control here. We really did get along great before this too...I'm going to meet with her on Tuesday and drop off her things. Who knows what to expect with this one?
johan Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 Maybe she'll respect that and treat you differently. Or maybe she'll just let it go out of pride.
EYECANDY000 Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 either she has split personalities, or she was aggravated by the fact that you wasnt responding to her texts. I would get aggravated as well. Granted, I understand you are with friends, but if you can respond to one text then you can respond to the second one. Instead of not responding all you had to do was say hey iM with friend Ill have to call you later. I read the pasrt that you said Im going out with the guys, so she already knew. Point on point, maybe you two needs to talk a little more about what type of relationship you are in. She may feel like its a little more and dont feel like she is a priority of yours
Author KingR Posted January 15, 2008 Author Posted January 15, 2008 Ok...now here is another problem I have....I met someone else in Mexico, although I'd rather get together with the original girl...we're not exclusive, so I don't need to tell her this tomorrow do I? Also, the stuff I have are cheap earrings and a bracelet....why does she insist on getting this stuff back?
D-Lish Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 OMG, No- you don't mention the other girl you met in Mexico. I am in a similar situation as you... I met someone we had chemistry- quite liked one another, then had a falling out and he left to go home for a month at x-mas.... We have since started texting and chatting again, and he will be home in a week. I am telling you honestly- if he told me he hooked up with someone while away, I'd walk away from him and never look back.
Author KingR Posted January 15, 2008 Author Posted January 15, 2008 I didn't have sex with her or anything, but she also lives in Toronto (which is where I live) so it can continue. I'm kind of at a toss up right now....I haven't had drama with the one from Mexico, but this other one has raised some red flags..... Perhaps I should just try and spin both plates for awhile?
Author KingR Posted January 15, 2008 Author Posted January 15, 2008 Ok ...now this is really messed up.....Now she just sent a text a minute ago saying "Hope you had a great day!!! What time works for you tomorrow?" WTF? I have no idea what to expect at the pub tomorrow now...I was going to go and NEXT her...now I'm having second thoughts...
EYECANDY000 Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 first, it shouldn't matter whether her jewlry is cheap, or extravagant , if its hers and she wants it then y do you feel like you have to put a price on it. its probaly sentimental jewelry . secondly, it doesn't matter that you guys have never been intimate or not if it doesn't come up in a casual conversation then what's the point of telling her you met someone new? to hurt her feelings? don't tell her about the new girl, unless she asks!thirdly just meet with her and give her back her jewelry . and tell her you would rather remain friends nothing more.
Author KingR Posted January 15, 2008 Author Posted January 15, 2008 first, it shouldn't matter whether her jewlry is cheap, or extravagant , if its hers and she wants it then y do you feel like you have to put a price on it. its probaly sentimental jewelry . secondly, it doesn't matter that you guys have never been intimate or not if it doesn't come up in a casual conversation then what's the point of telling her you met someone new? to hurt her feelings? don't tell her about the new girl, unless she asks!thirdly just meet with her and give her back her jewelry . and tell her you would rather remain friends nothing more. Hi Eyecandy, she will ask me....trust me... These aren't senitmental pieces of jewelry...they are plastic..or something like that...Now if she asks, and I say yes, according to D-Lish, it will mess up everything again...that is not what I want to do...so what happens in Mexico, stays in Mexico I guess...
Author KingR Posted January 16, 2008 Author Posted January 16, 2008 So.....I went to meet her at the pub and it lasted a whole 5 mins until she left and said "see you around"....and then.... We had a text message war for about 2.5 hours.....until she finally said "When are we going out again?" ....Women are nuts I tell you...I thought this was a done deal until some witty texting took place. I called her and set something for Saturday....Know idea where this is going as she still seems a bit out there....but at least I'm out of the dog house for now. CHeers.
fishtaco Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 Dude what are you doing? She's crazy, run away. Seems to me she's playing a dangerous game. My guess is that she's controlling and is a manipulator. She's doing all these odd things because she's searching for your weakness; a bait that you'll fall for. You could turn the game back on her and try to nail her and leave. But I think it's best to just run away. And yes, spin both plates (if you want to continue with this crazy chick). You never want to put all of your eggs in one basket. It's one of the most important things I learned, not only as hard lessons, but also as advice given to me by both men and women. Find a third plate if you can, since one is likely to be crazy, and the other one is far. Oh and the plates must not know about each other.
jcster Posted January 17, 2008 Posted January 17, 2008 Dude what are you doing? She's crazy, run away. Seems to me she's playing a dangerous game. My guess is that she's controlling and is a manipulator. She's doing all these odd things because she's searching for your weakness; a bait that you'll fall for. You could turn the game back on her and try to nail her and leave. But I think it's best to just run away. I agree! Rule number one of dating: No crazy chicks/dudes. Period. You really should ask yourself why you would ask her out again after the way that she's been behaving. Do you have a hard time setting boundaries? Because this is not going to end well.
Author KingR Posted January 17, 2008 Author Posted January 17, 2008 I agree! Rule number one of dating: No crazy chicks/dudes. Period. You really should ask yourself why you would ask her out again after the way that she's been behaving. Do you have a hard time setting boundaries? Because this is not going to end well. I think you're right....she seems to be playing text message games again tonight...WTF? This girl seems like a couple eye-liners short of a make-up kit...but she's a hottie, so it's hard to just bail...Perhaps I'll just keep her on the backburner....
Author KingR Posted January 18, 2008 Author Posted January 18, 2008 So tonight I sent her the LJBF text.....she hit the roof....I've been dealing with her games for a month so I figured I'd put it to an end. If she had of played her cards right, this could have been good... Ladies...don't play these games....
BeautifulMystique Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 I don't think a lot of ladies play 'these games'. I for one do not play any games as I don't have the time. I have better things to do. I am glad that you have finally ended it with her. Good luck on your future ladies...
fishtaco Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 Actually a lot of ladies do play these games. That's why men need to learn the warning signs to keep themselves safe. I knew the chick was crazy from reading a couple of posts because it has happened to me before as well. In fact I believe they read the exact same "How to be Crazy to Control a Man" handbook. I was getting flashbacks as I was reading his posts. Then there were others that were using similar methodology (sometimes I realize too late, I'll be the first to admit I'm just a dumb guy struggling to keep my head above water), but the manifestations of the craziness were different. Creative differences I guess. But kudos to BeautifulMystique for not playing these games. You are one of the good ones.
johan Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 So tonight I sent her the LJBF text.. LJBF.... Long John... something... Fu*ker. Or maybe Lyndon Johnson Beats Fish. Neither of those make sense. Not sure what kind of text you sent.
crazy_grl Posted January 18, 2008 Posted January 18, 2008 LJBF.... Long John... something... Fu*ker. Or maybe Lyndon Johnson Beats Fish. Neither of those make sense. Not sure what kind of text you sent. I used my decoder ring to come up with Let's Just Be Friends.
Ocean-Blue Posted January 25, 2008 Posted January 25, 2008 Has it occured to you that she may be thinking YOU are playing games? You are inconsistent with your texting and with the messages you send. Perhaps she is reacting to your mind fu@king.
Author KingR Posted January 28, 2008 Author Posted January 28, 2008 Has it occured to you that she may be thinking YOU are playing games? You are inconsistent with your texting and with the messages you send. Perhaps she is reacting to your mind fu@king. update......She managed to sucker me back in last week...Nothing really happened aside from text messages and a couple of phone calls...I asked her if she wanted to join me for the basketball game (this coming Wednesday) last Monday....she said she'll let me know...Friday I sent a text asking her is she's coming or not....no response....I just sent a text saying this ain't working out and we're better off as friends...see ya around and deleted her number.....I have a feeling she just wanted the attention and now I am unable to give it to her ...lol. End of story.
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