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[NinjaStrike]

Hello everyone! I'm 16 and just looking for a little advice about this wonderful girl I met recently.

 

She(Jess) had been in my 3rd and 5th grade classes in elementary school and I never paid much attention to her as she was very shy. My eye recently caught her however after seeing her in the halls of my high school and realizing that she is absolutely gorgeous. 2 weeks ago I approached her after a brief chat via facebook and asked her what she was doing that saturday. She invited me to go to the movies with her friends, whom at the time I didn't know! I accepted because I knew I had nothing to be afraid of and I would relate to her friends if they were as awesome as she is.

I knew I was taking a risk by going with this girl I didn't really know very well but I learned a lot about her and I was completely enamored. I sat next to her (she promised) and held her hand during the "scary" parts of Sweeney Todd (scary, my butt!). We both really related to one another there and after having a great time and getting back to my house at 1 in the morning, I wrote her a message (once again on facebook, I would have called her but I mean really, it was like 1:30 by then) that said I basically loved her (I'm good with words though, I said it tactfully). I acknowledge now that I was much too fast. I went head over heels for her because I have been going through a lot of frustration with friends and school lately and felt that it was only around her that I could be myself. She replied (edited),

 

"I can't really come up with anything except that it wasn't at all luck that you were sitting next to me...haha people don't get lucky with me. you were sitting next to me because i wanted you there. i really don't know what to say."

 

The problem with me is that I am just too damn unafraid. I'm too brave. Many guys have problems with approaching girls, I have a problem backing away from them. When I wrote that message to her I remember feeling tired of beating around the bush with girls. I should probably also say that I feel so much more for her compared to anyone else I've known.

And wow, I'm writing a bit too much, so to make it short, I talked to her all through out this past week, sat with her at lunch and was always eager to get an excuse to hug her. All her friends tell me that we look so cute together and that she talks about me all the time! One time I asked her friend what she (Jess) thought about me, and she said that she does like me but it will just take time because Jess is a bit shy. Me, being an idiot (or maybe just a guy) only paid attention to the first part of her message. I called Jess and basically noted what her friend said in that I wanted to pursue a relationship with her.

Tactfully, she said no. She said that she liked me a lot and could see herself with me, but that it all happened fast (which is true) and that we should wait and find out more about each other (which is true). I acknowledged what she said and honestly it just brought us closer together because we learned more about each other.

This weekend I went on a ski trip with my friends after her convincing me that I should go versus spending time with her and that yes, her schedule was seriously filled to the brim. I called her at least 3 times. Now there's a chance of a snow day tomorrow and I'm about to call her to theorize us doing something if we have a snow day.

 

I love this girl more than anything and I can't stop thinking about her. I know that I will have her in time. I am completely confident and know that I have the cajones to pull this off beautifully. We're definitely going to do something alone next weekend.

 

So I don't know why I posted this here and I probably sound like a dweeb but can anyone give me advice?

[Legend]

Sounds like your'e coming on too strong. You'll push her away. You "love" her? Wow, that was fast.