MysticStar Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 I've talked to a lot of poeple over the years that believe there is one and only one person that is truely a compatible mate, and unless you meet that person you will never truly be happy. I've also talked to other people who like myself, beleive that there are many people out that thay you could be married to and have a happy and fulfilling marriage. What are your thoughts? Only one? or one of many?
blackbird Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 Neither only one or one of many, IMO. One of few. I also think there's such a thing as 'building' a 'soulmate', as opposed to jut 'finding' one. The idea of 'finding' your true one and only is pretty silly to me, one person out there who will just fit you perfectly in every way. However, you could meet a person who's 'one of few', who fits you in many ways but not likely all, and then with time and work put into the relationship, you grow together to be that special 'one and only' for each other. What that takes is work, not luck/fate. It may not sound as romantic but I think it's more real.
quankanne Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 I've never believed in the "soul mate as significant other" tripe, because why should the folks who get you be limited to just one person? That's a huge burden to hang on someone. same thing with the thought that just because I married my husband, he's the ONLY person for me – circumstances change and people die, they drift apart, they get divorced, and you respond to those changes. I'm not going to say that he's my be-all, end-all, because again that's a huge burden to hang on him. that said, I do know that he's the only person I feel so sure about that I'm comfortable with the idea of spending the rest of my life with him because despite what he does to piss me off, I can see a future that doesn't scare or worry me at all. is there someone else out there who can fill that role? Probably. But my husband is where I want to be ...
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