TaraV Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 Hi everyone, To make a long story very short, my long term boyfriend works too hard and never wants to have sex. As a result of being on my alone a lot, I hang out with a neighbour and her boyfriend all the time. To cut the story even shorter, I started "seeing" this other couple, as the other woman turned out to be bi. I had never been in a threesome before and it was great. Me and the other woman have a competitive thing going on where we argue and slap and call each other the "b" word a lot, but all in fun. To say the least, this excites her boyfriend a lot, and lets just say it's like we all died and went to heaven. This has been going on for about 4 months, and it keeps me satisfied in a way my husband won't. Now the other couple invited us to go on a vacation with them, and my boyfriend can't go, but says it's Ok if I go with them. Do I go? Do I continute this adventure, or tell my boyfriend about it?
Bryanp Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 You owe it to your boyfriend to be honest with him and tell him what has been going on. He has a right to know that you are putting his health at risk for STD's. In addition, you are humiliating and totally disrespecting your relationship with him. You are cheating behind his back. He will eventually find out and find out that you went on vacation with these people to have sex. You have been cheating on him for 4 months. How would you feel if he was cheating behind your back for 4 months? Be honest with him and maybe he will say it is all right. Maybe he is all right with an open relationship. Nevertheless he has a right to know that his long term girlfriend is cheating behind his back. If you have any respect left for him you will tell him the truth because he has a right to know.
Ronni_W Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 ...it keeps me satisfied in a way my husband won't. Do I continute this adventure, or tell my boyfriend about it? You have a husband AND a boyfriend? Or you're just trolling?
TMCM Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 I hope I'm wrong but the inconsistencies in her statements of her boyfriend or her husband may be an indication that this person is nothing more than a troll.
Author TaraV Posted January 13, 2008 Author Posted January 13, 2008 troll for what? I was trying to hide my identity. I'm used to saying husband as I am actually married. you people are paranoid.
Mr. Lucky Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 troll for what? I was trying to hide my identity. I'm used to saying husband as I am actually married. you people are paranoid. Ok, then go on the vacation and have fun. Send us a postcard, we'd love to stay in touch ... Mr. Lucky
TMCM Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 troll for what? I was trying to hide my identity. I'm used to saying husband as I am actually married. you people are paranoid. It's amusing that you call us paranoid when it is you who seems to be so obsessed in trying to hide her identity when it is practically impossible for us to know who you really are. As BryanP said to you, how would you like it if the roles were reversed and it was your husband/boyfried/SO/whatever who was asking us for advice? Why don't you do as one husband here did - when his wife didn't want to have sex with him - and ask him if it was ok with him if you met your sexual needs elsewhere? His wife gave him the green light to go and have sex with another woman. Who knows, you just might get lucky and get the ok from him as well.
whichwayisup Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 Do I go? Do I continute this adventure, or tell my boyfriend about it? Tell your boyfriend/husband the truth. Let him decide what he wants to do. It is selfish and unfair of you to have your cake and eat it too. Yeah, you were lonely because he works alot, but you know what? You should have talked to him to let him know that you are/were miserable in the marriage. You chose now to cheat and have fun on the side, going against your marriage vows. Now, you have to come clean, tell him so he can decicde if he wants to stay married to you, or maybe he'll even want to join in the fun with the neighbours. Either way, you're handling this situation badly.
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