someone3434 Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 Some of you may have seen my earlier posts. My ex left me about 4 months ago after a time when I thought she was truly the one. Anyways... I've had two great dates with a woman that really is an amazing person. She makes me laugh, I've sat and talked with her for 3 hours each time we've gone out, she's beautiful, an amazing kisser. And I'm scared. I have a great time with this woman but yet I'm comparing her to my ex all the time. And it felt so easy with my ex and I don't get that feeling that I had after the first two dates with my ex. I'm confused because everything about this woman feels so right but I'm worried because for some reason it doesn't feel the same and I don't want to hurt someone the way my ex hurt me. Not really sure what to expect just don't really know what to do right now.
sumdude Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 Some of you may have seen my earlier posts. My ex left me about 4 months ago after a time when I thought she was truly the one. Anyways... I've had two great dates with a woman that really is an amazing person. She makes me laugh, I've sat and talked with her for 3 hours each time we've gone out, she's beautiful, an amazing kisser. And I'm scared. I have a great time with this woman but yet I'm comparing her to my ex all the time. And it felt so easy with my ex and I don't get that feeling that I had after the first two dates with my ex. I'm confused because everything about this woman feels so right but I'm worried because for some reason it doesn't feel the same and I don't want to hurt someone the way my ex hurt me. Not really sure what to expect just don't really know what to do right now. I know how you feel. Been there , had sex with a woman I was seeing. She was so different physically and otherwise it kind of messed me up. You're not over your ex yet.... and not ready for a new big relationship. So there's this great girl, Well you can tell her what's going on with you and that you need more time but still want to see her. Take it really really slow and whatever you do don't let her know you've been comparing! Say as little about your ex as possible other than you still have a few things to work through. She's gonna know you're rebounding, have a little baggage left over and decide if it's worth it. OR You can fake it 'till you make it. Realize that she'll probably get some weird vibes from you and you're going to have some rough moments. Don't say jack about your ex and what you're going through. Question is are you prepared for this relationship to possibly fizzle out and how you'll react to that? OR End it softly with the new girl, get on with your life wihout any relationships for a while until you get your ex out of your system.
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