bandgeek0203 Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 I am a bit confused and I would appreciate any input, thanks in advance. I'll make this short and sweet. To start I am in school. So I got really drunk once and this guy sort of saved me. He didn't have to, it was my first time really drunk, but he took me back to his room and took care of me. (Not as sketch as it sounds) I didn't expect anything to come of it, but he kept pursuing me, e-mailing me and calling me "lady" and "darling." We've had a few extended conversations in person but most of recent convo's were via e-mail. So over break I sent him a holiday card as a gesture of friendship, and when I returned to school he greeted me with a hug. The thing is, I've always been somewhat suspicious of this guy because he seems to be a bit of a player. I hadn't been initiating any of our communication either. Then out of nowhere he stops talking to me. I'm not sure if he is just confused, but he just sort of seemed to drop away, and didn't even bother to wish me a happy birthday. I kind of did like him. More than anything I'm just disappointed. What's going on?
Krytie TV Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 We know less than you... how would we know? It's hard to speak for someone we know nothing about.
compassion42 Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 Maybe he met someone else? Really, it's hard to say what might have happened but most likely he moved on. Sorry!
Lucasarts Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 interesting, because i just recently did this with a girl as well (tho there were a few more factors to it than just the lack of communication on her part) I usually dont mind pursuing a girl, i enjoy the chase as it makes the reward that much better and somewhat more deserving. However, I will not chase a girl who is not trying to communicate back to me after a few times of being with her (when i say this, i mean starting conversations or texting me from time to time without me starting it). I dont mind starting a conversation, calling first, texting first, or Iming her first, but after a month and im still doing all the work, I just come to the understanding that she isn't as interested or shes not worth the time or energy. A girl who likes me will eventually give in and communicate with me in some way, shape or form; a girl who doesn't, will let me know in some way, shape or form. Now a girl who is receptive to everything i start yet never really does more than that, is just being nice, so why bother? I dont need to spend months of my life to be with someone who really doesnt want to let me down so hard. I'm not trying to sway a girls feelings to convince her to want me, there must have been a reason why she is so hard to be with in the first place right? I dont understand why you're so concerned about this guy, since you werent really showing that you were attracted to him. The card may have sent a signal of you liking him, but because you never seemed to really want to start a conversation or call to hang out with him only indicates that you were being nice and friendly. He probably stopped talking to you because he understood this, and any communication between you two will occur only if you start it now. If he's a player than yes he understands this game well and did the smart thing; he was showing you that he liked and cared for you, yet did not receive the same response. It's like asking this question from a guy: " I dont understand why this girl stopped talking to me. I mean she would call all the time and we would have good convos, yet i had the feeling that she was somewhat of a slut. I really never made any of the moves or initiated any of the communication, but she would still call and stuff. I gave her a lil present for her (birthday, holiday) and she really liked it, she gave me a hug and kiss on the cheek. Suddenly tho, one day she just stopped calling. I dont know if shes confused or what, but I'm a little frustrated by it. I was actually starting to like her too, but now im just disappointed, What happened?" Pretty just re-read what you've wrote but put yourself in the position of the guy and you'll clearly understand that if someone is showing interest to someone else, yet is really not getting positive feedback/results/actions, then the attraction will fade and the message will be quite obvious to them. If you honestly liked the guy, then what did he do to keep you from starting anything with him? He didn't try to take advantage of you, he simply was being very friendly and talk to you. And why did you suspect that he was a player? because he has a lot of female friends? or is that the word on the street? In short, you played a game with him and he got sick of it. Now you deal with the results.
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