Precious K Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 What the hell am I doing? Okay damn, I feel I'm ruining my life on purpose. I've been out of a relationship for a few months now and my ex and I are finally being civil. I still love the dude but I'm not in love with him. A new guy just popped into my life and I'm so mad at myself because I'm starting to like the kid. As I wrote on my previous thread the dude just got out of a 3 yr relationship. -Still loves the ex and talks to her (damn). -Since we met we have talked to each other everyday. -He was the first to bring up his ex in the conversation. -I told him I couldn't talk to him and in return he said it felt like a break-up. And to never break-up w/him again (we aren't together) - he started to call be babe, baby, love, and hun... weird - he will text me "I miss you love", "where are you?" stuff like that - I was just hanging out with a guy friend and he wanted to know where that was going. - he said he isn't even trying to get back with his ex - he is always wanting to know what I'm doing or where I'm going - he calls me during his lunch and we talk at night - he said that this weekend he felt like someone is isolating me from him and how he needs to find me. Now I've screwed up royaly, seriously I need mad help. I don't want to like him, I don't want to think about him. It feels as if I'm his distraction. I don't want this to be a rebound. And shhht it feels I won't be able to run away from him cause... yeah... I think I like him... he won't get out of my mind. Please help. I need some straighting out!!! How can I just be a real friend to him? (Oooooh, he said "I'm going to start liking you and you're going to make me fall in love with you"... shhht)
nellstar Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 Take a deep breath!! Why do you think it's harder for you now? Is he any different than your other guy friends? I am talking about those you have no feelings for.... and won't fall for.... How have you screwed up royally?
child_of_isis Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 I'm thinking the same as you. He is going to use you to get over his ex. Be careful.
Always Wrong Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 For the love-of-God! Don't be a rebound girl. Wants to know where you are all the time? Already trying to isolate you by being jealous about someone coming between you? C'mon Precious K, you're smart! Take it for what it is and put your heart back in your pocket for now. You know the signs... sounds to me like he will be a major control freak if you continue on with this endeavour.
Author Precious K Posted January 13, 2008 Author Posted January 13, 2008 Take a deep breath!! Why do you think it's harder for you now? Is he any different than your other guy friends? I am talking about those you have no feelings for.... and won't fall for.... How have you screwed up royally? Well all my dude friends are great and the difference is how he talks to me. He talks to me more like he likes me, he hasn't told me he likes me though. He is so sweet and he gives me butterflies in my stomach. How have a royaly screwed up... 1. I'm out of a bad break up, I felt like my heart was going to die... cried and got a lil depressed 2. He loves his ex so even though I know this it doesn't stop me from talking to him. I call him "baby" now. Ahhh 3. I don't want to get hurt again 4. I think about him a lot, I don't want to. I wait for his txt msgs... I miss the dude 5. I don't want to mess up my life anymore than it already is.
Author Precious K Posted January 13, 2008 Author Posted January 13, 2008 For the love-of-God! Don't be a rebound girl. Wants to know where you are all the time? Already trying to isolate you by being jealous about someone coming between you? C'mon Precious K, you're smart! Take it for what it is and put your heart back in your pocket for now. You know the signs... sounds to me like he will be a major control freak if you continue on with this endeavour. Oh trust me, I'm really trying not to be a reboud girl. I just thought "oh I can be his friend and help him through his break-up" and it back fired on me. Now I think I like him and I don't want to. And that's why I'm here because I don't know how to "put my heart back in my pocket".... *sigh* I guess he acted a lil weird last night when I told him I was going on a date. He never responded to me, and he still hasn't said anything. I don't see why he wouldn't talk to me.
Lee725 Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 I just did one of these, he was so sweet, kind, chased me, blah, blah. Helped him as best i could with the negative issues within himself (re:EX), got attached to him. He came out the other end saying to me "I am not ready for this" (with me). If i had time over again - i would not have gone there full stop. Not as a friend, not as an anything. Good luck with what ever you choose, i hope it all works out for you, but this fellow seems to have rebound written all over him (as you can see already), so unless you are prepared to get hurt again i would keep this one well away. (at least for the short term for him to recover from her). Going out on other dates is a great idea! - good luck there!
Always Wrong Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 And that's why I'm here because I don't know how to "put my heart back in my pocket".... *sigh*. 1. Carefully fold it in half. (mine folds quite easily since my cholesterol is so low!) 2. Place it in a ziplock pouch. 3. Try to put it in your pocket. (not your back pocket... you don't wan't to sit on it!) 4. If you jeans are too tight... do not do what I did! (I laid mine on the counter with the groceries and accidentally put it in the freezer with the lunch meat...) Go buy some new jeans! 5. Keep trying to put it in your pocket, and each time you fail, go buy some new jeans! 6. I never did get it back in my pocket but I sure have a nice selection of jeans now, and I forgot all about my broken heart!
Lee725 Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 1. Carefully fold it in half. (mine folds quite easily since my cholesterol is so low!) 2. Place it in a ziplock pouch. 3. Try to put it in your pocket. (not your back pocket... you don't wan't to sit on it!) 4. If you jeans are too tight... do not do what I did! (I laid mine on the counter with the groceries and accidentally put it in the freezer with the lunch meat...) Go buy some new jeans! 5. Keep trying to put it in your pocket, and each time you fail, go buy some new jeans! 6. I never did get it back in my pocket but I sure have a nice selection of jeans now, and I forgot all about my broken heart! love it
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