young835 Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 hello all its my first ever post: well i met this girl and i can say that i like her. we've only known each other for 2 weeks and on the first 4 days we met, pretty much spent all day with each other and it is obvious they are not some "buddy buddy" hangouts as we held hands and kissed on occasion. after those 4 days she went on a ski trip with friends and when she came back she seemed to have lost that spark. we talked throughout the week but i can tell that something was off. i was pretty sure that we were moving too fast those first 4 days of the "relationship" and maybe she was needing some space. we hung out last night and asked her if i was coming on too strong or pressuring her. she replied no and that she recently ended a messy relationship and this was the longest she ever been without a bf..she had been in some sort of relationship for about 7 years, not with the same guy tho, and i guess shes just need to feel like to be single. well heres the dilemma: i told her im not looking to get into anything serious either b/c we've only been hanging for 2 weeks and we should just continue to hang out. she said to just hang out without any expectations of getting into some sort of relationship. so how should i go about with her? i dont want to come at her too strong but yet keep it at a level outside of the "friendzone" . I should be patient and not rush things, but im afriad she might lose interest. haha why do girls make it so complicated sometimes, have one demeanor one week and switch it up the next?!?!?! thanks guys, i like this one and would like to make it work with her
Lucasarts Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 humm i've been in this sorta situation and its a tough one. It seems that you do want to be in a relationship with this girl with the way your trying to keep that "spark" going with her. Yet you told her that you didnt want anything serious b/c you've only known her for 2 weeks. So when a girl hears that and agrees, it means shes respecting your wishes. You're pretty much getting what you asked for from her, and that you guys should just keep riding the wave your on and seeing where it takes you. Its hard to maintain a relationship with passion yet not call it a relationship (thats exclusive) unless its a FWB that you're looking for (but this requires a mutual consensus on both sides, no love, just fun and sex). in all honesty, i'd just see where it takes you, like guys originally agreed upon, dont expect a relationship but still maintain that level of flirting, kissing and hand holding...maybe you'll like her even more and things will become serious, or maybe she's a psycho and you cant stand her. It's really up to you as to whether you want to take this as far as it can go or not.
TigerCub Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 Well if she just ended a relationship and wants to feel what its like to be single again, that Most Likely means that she's not ready for another relationship and she just wants to play the field. So getting involved with her now might just mean that you're the rebound guy. If you really do like her, you can take the risk of continuing to hang out with her and see where it goes, but if you kinda like her, but are willing to walk away, you probably should - or just be friends with her, but don't expect to turn it into anything too significant. Sorry, but that's just my take on the situation
Phateless Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 There's not much you can do bud. She told you how she feels. You come on too strong and she'll run like hell. Just play it cool, try to relax, and continue to meet other girls. After all, she's telling you that she wants to see other guys as well. You never know, if you give her some space she just may come running after you.
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