thekid55 Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 I know everyone says that NC needs to be a period of time where you get yourself back in order and time to reflect about the relationship. Maybe realize why the relationship ended and be able to reflect on any mistakes that you've made. I feel like I haven't made any mistakes with this relationship...her reasonings for ending it had nothing to do with me...read on.. My girlfriend broke up with me back in late October after about 2 years together in high school. She's 16 years old. 17 soon. In September, I went away to college. She still has 2 more years in high school. Her reasoning for ending the relationship: "I don't want anything serious and I just want to experience high school". I can honestly say that this girl was head over heels for me when we were together. We spent all of our time together. I was the first guy she was ever in love with and was ever sexually active with. We never really hung out with our friends too often. However, all of our time together was well-spent and I always walked the extra mile for her, as did she. Since we have been apart, she has gotten into this "partying" mindset. I can definitely attest that it has to do with the group of friends she has fell into. She has cancelled two proposed meetings we were supposed to have together. One during the current winter break and one during Thanksgiving. I was willing to come home one weekend to see her and try to sort things out but she was always against it. She has a new boyfriend now who most people feel is totally opposite of her. I really don't know much about the relationship except that they've been together for about 3 weeks and have had some arguments. Apparently, he doesn't want her telling people they are together. The new boy is one of those "emo, pothead types" View on me since the breakup: I'm 18 years old. A college freshman. 3.6 GPA. I'm on the rise. I've been on various dates with new people and I have been going to a lot of parties. I'm really trying to move on, but I do feel like I've been sort of a doormat through all of this. I really haven't taken a stand until last week. I've gone NC for about 14 days, but that ended last week when I ran into her at my old high school. She came to visit me at work that evening, but I wasn't working. My last contact with her: She emailed me on facebook saying "Please take down the pictures of us on there, thank you". I replied back saying "Please just leave me alone." I didn't realize I had the pictures still on there. This is really the first time I've taken a stand with her. I know people will say "just move on, she's not worth it, you are in college". I understand that. I've really started to take in the experience. I've met a lot of new girls. I've dated. I'm enjoying it. My ex is just someone who, I don't know, just felt right. Maybe this is a phase she is going through. But I really need No Contact with her or at least LC. It'll help me get back into order and maybe shed some light with her. No one could treat her better than I did. She knows that we had something really special. She just hasn't realized that since I've kind of been around. She doesn't want anything serious now. From what I've told you, what do you suggest?
Leia Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 Honey, move on! You're doing so well and there is a better girl out there. You're in college now, I'm sure you have met alot of hawt chicks around!! Have fun and live it to the fullest!!!!
Jerome84 Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 She's lost and wants to find herself, and at this age and period she feels she is missing out on a lot by being committed to one person, understand that this is normal, I bet that most people that were in that situation felt the same at some point, but it is only those of weak character that actually end up doing what she did, believe me you don't want/need someone like her in your life, instead be thankful that it is over and that (apparently) you are doing well yourself, work on that mate. also WAKE UP....HELLO!!!! COLLEGE?!
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