phillip2 Posted January 12, 2008 Posted January 12, 2008 i kinda have a new bf.he seems nice and i can tell he really likes me but i aint getting my hopes up.this is for a number of things. i want to know if you could trust him and just if he is ok to get envolved with? 1. he was on drugs not anymore. 2.he seems to have lots of sex with just random people lol. 3.he aint scally but he looks it a little and is out a lot. but despite all this on the phone he is so sweet and just wants 2 meet me soon so we can chat and that. what you think?
bozwa Posted January 12, 2008 Posted January 12, 2008 Ummm... 1. red flag 2. red flag 3. red flag You met him online? Move on to another profile. NEXT!
Author phillip2 Posted January 12, 2008 Author Posted January 12, 2008 wehy though, i know he sounds rough but, he seems really nice?
Ronni_W Posted January 12, 2008 Posted January 12, 2008 ...he sounds rough but, he seems really nice? People who engage in extremely risky behaviour can ALSO have nice personalities. Do you want to move towards a person who engages in risky behaviour? How much exposure do you want, to the type of "rough" lifestyle you've described? If you have not even met, he isn't a "new b/f" -- he isn't even a platonic friend, yet.
Author phillip2 Posted January 12, 2008 Author Posted January 12, 2008 ok well he wil be a bf when we meet next week,well i dont mind getting envolved with him aslong as he treats me proper etc. and ive been told that before, that they can be like that but have a nice personailty.
Jerome84 Posted January 12, 2008 Posted January 12, 2008 It seems you have already made up your mind, if that is the case then why ask us?
norajane Posted January 12, 2008 Posted January 12, 2008 ok well he wil be a bf when we meet next week,well i dont mind getting envolved with him aslong as he treats me proper etc. and ive been told that before, that they can be like that but have a nice personailty. No, no he won't become a bf when you meet. He'll become a guy you met for the first time online. You may become one of the random people he has sex with. You may not even be at all attracted to each other in person. YOu still won't know each other much better than you do now. That's not the same as a bf. he aint scally but he looks it a little and is out a lot. Huh? What is "scally"? Scary? Scaly?
Author phillip2 Posted January 12, 2008 Author Posted January 12, 2008 well we wil se how it goes and that, thanks
Nemo Posted January 12, 2008 Posted January 12, 2008 Excellent. During the 1990s the term started to be used to describe a yob or a hooligan. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scally
Nemo Posted January 12, 2008 Posted January 12, 2008 It seems you have already made up your mind, if that is the case then why ask us? Hahahahaha. This place is largely used for validation.
bozwa Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 Well, since you're going to do it even though no one but you thinks it's a good idea, at least be careful about it. Do you have his full name? His phone number? His address? Do some research on him first - FOR YOUR OWN SAFETY. Also make sure several people in your life know where you are, who you are with (and also give them all his personal info: the phone #, address and name), when you are going, etc. - FOR YOUR OWN SAFETY. You just can't trust anyone. ANYONE. No mater how much you want to. You don't want to be the next listing in the obituaries.
sedgwick Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 I think you'd have better luck posting this in the dating forum than the breakup forum. That said, he will not become your boyfriend upon your first meeting. He may add you to the roster of people he has sex with, but "boyfriend" is something that develops over time. Are you sure you want to immediately take on someone with a sketchy past (and present) as your boyfriend anyway? That certainly seems like a questionable proposition at best. Also, what's "scally?" Is that some new slang I don't know?
Nemo Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 Also, what's "scally?" Is that some new slang I don't know? Please see post #9.
Jerome84 Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 I hope the sex would be worth the risk you are taking, enjoy.
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