Jasmine777 Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 I have been so confused for many months now, my ex whom I was with for almost six years wants to talk at least once a day still. He wants to date another woman to see if I am the one. That to me sounds like a bunch of bs but he says it like he really means it. This woman is older, he is only 24 and she is in her 30s at least and she brags how she is a salsa dancer to him. This whole issue seems so creepy. He wants to call me everyday, if I don't pick up he panics, I have tried everything from not picking up, to yelling at him to leave me alone, to acting like everything is normal, just so that he would leave me alone. What he does not realize is is he is hurting me by calling me all the time or by texting me saying he loves me and such. It sucks becasue I miss him a lot so it is hard not to pick up but he does not want to be with me and he wants to date. He keeps saying he wants to see if we are meant to be and all this mumbo jumbo but what he does not realize is that he hurting me. I have told him everything that I need to such as how I feel about him and how he needs to let me heal and leave me alone. He still does not get it and still bugs me and I don't want to change my phone number. I have gotten plenty of advice from people on this issue but nothing seems to help! I have tried not picking up and then he bugs me a lot and won't give up, it gets worse. If I then talk to him he isn't even that nice and he does not want to change and work on things. So even when he finally gets me to talk to him, he doesn't even appreciate that I called him back or what not he acts like hey whats up. So does anyone know what is going on with him? Does anyone have any good advice for what I should do or don't do. I really need some good advice because this situation is just not helping me or is healthy for me! If he wants his "space" why is he harrasing me!!??
Lishy Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 He is having his cake and eating it! Lucky man But you are not so lucky are you? Can you change your number?
Author Jasmine777 Posted January 12, 2008 Author Posted January 12, 2008 Not only does he claim he is dating someone but he never seems to leave his house and he bugs me most of the time. Funny enough I know that he is not on some hot date becasue he is calling me or is at home on his computer trying to skype me. I just feel sooo confused. His mom also says that he hardly leaves the house unless it is for school and such but it really isn't like he acts like he is dating someone! Any advice on that?
Lee725 Posted January 12, 2008 Posted January 12, 2008 He only keeps calling and txting because you must not be strong enough saying NO! Mixed signals there maybe? If he is bugging you that much and you dont want to be with him or invloved in his life, change your number or get an order to make him leave you alone.
Author Jasmine777 Posted January 12, 2008 Author Posted January 12, 2008 It is not that I don't want to be involved with him, its just he is bugging me and trying to date someone else. i tell him that it is either her or I, he does not want to chooose me so I say then leave me alone, he won't! I am soooo sick of it I could puke. Yes I could change my number but I really don't want to do that because it has been my number for about ten years! I am now not going to answer it. What I would like to know is why does he keep bothering me when I tell him to leave me alone!! Does anyone know what the heck he may be thinking or is he just crazy? I think he is making me a little crazy too! I hate this whole thing, he was my bestfriend for so long, he adored me and I adored him! We have gone through so much! This all started when his friend broke up with a girl that he dated for many years and then Adam did this to me! It is all very confusing. Can I ask, why would he want to be free but bug me everyday? I really need to know, this is all tearing me up! I JUST FEEL LIKE CRAP EVERYDAY OVER THIS!
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